It will depend on the family, my wife and I got married in the UK, and we never paid a sin sod, in fact my wife's Dad paid for her family's flights to come to the wedding. I paid for the wedding as a trade off. On the other hand my Wife's cousin is due to marry a lawyer from a well to do family and ...

If you are married then why don't you move her to live with you in the West?, just a thought.