Thai males and their friends

Post by **AZscott** » January 13, 2007, 1:35 am

I spent two months in the Udon area recently with my significant other who is Thai.

I am learning about cultural differences,etc and this site has been very helpful. I need help understanding friendships in the village. We took a trip to Hong Kong and his friends were almost in tears when we left because they would "miss us so much" even though it was a 3 day trip. When we returned it was also emotional and seemed as if they hadn't seen us in years
I have also noted that friend's needs and wants are equal to a family member's or spouse's. I get along well with his friends and they treat me very well. However, I just can't seem to totally understand the connections and priorities.
I am an American living in Arizona. I will be in Udon for Song kran festival.

I really need a Thai perspective on Thai males and friends. Thanks!

Post by **Doc** » January 13, 2007, 8:14 am

I doubt if anyone on this forum will be able to give you any insight on this type of thing due to the gender issue. Gays approach life differently than heterosexuals for a number of different reasons.

Post by **papaguido** » January 13, 2007, 8:58 am

AZscott,

Thai perspective? I know there a few Thai female members on this site, not sure about males. You may have a better chance here:

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/index.php?showforum=27

Post by **ctm** » January 15, 2007, 9:59 pm

I think it is a bit of a gay thing. Are is friends highly effeminate?

The only time I saw crying and hugging was after the wife returned from a few years overseas. I find Thais often to be quite stoic in these situations.

And among Thai women, friends are definitely not on par with parents. Husbands will be lucky to ever even reach semi-parity with Pa and Mae.

Post by **beer monkey** » January 15, 2007, 10:33 pm

ctm wrote:I think it is a bit of a gay thing. Are is friends highly effeminate?

The only time I saw crying and hugging was after the wife returned from a few years overseas. I find Thais often to be quite stoic in these situations.

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spot on there ctm, effeminate men can be very excitable especialy thai's.
also i have never seen my thai family members crying and definatley never hugging,.... they might have been crying and hugging with joy after i have left i don't know.

Post by **AZscott** » January 17, 2007, 2:18 am

Thanks for your help. In looking back I realize that he was the first in his village to travel by air to another country and it caused a stir. His friends remain the nicest folks I have met in a long time.
To stereotype gays as always looking at life differently is interesting. I'm willing to bet that we are more like minded than not. Thanks to everyone for helping me out