House Keeper or not

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Ours just quit, to be honest I'm happy about it. Had nothing to do with the house keeper good lady became a part of the family over the last year and would never have terminated her.

But I believe my wife will be more happy doing things herself, she has been bored to death. Before I go any further we have no chidren, just the two of us.

I have noticed on the days the housekeeper didn't come and the wife took care of the house the wife just seemed to be more happy.

The houskeeper will be missed in the conversation department and it has been fun seeing her kids going through school ect. But she has a new job making clothes here localy. So I'm happy for her and I don't think we will be replacing her.

So guys what has been your experience wife happier without a house keeper or not?

[banpaeng]

A bit warped view but here goes.

Wife(Thai) said when we move there she only wants one to come in maybe twice a week. Does not want one full time.

Sister(falang) Said she wants a housekeeper full time no if, ands or buts.

[igtm]

I really enjoy having a housekeeper. I don't miss doing dishes, laundry, ironing, etc. Hehe.. Of course we have a 5 month old that keeps me busy all day but regardless I would still want a housekeeper. If I get really bored I will go get a foot massage or something

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I really enjoy having a housekeeper. I don't miss doing dishes, laundry, ironing, etc. Hehe.. Of course we have a 5 month old that keeps me busy all day but regardless I would still want a housekeeper. If I get really bored I will go get a foot massage or something

If you have a five month old in the house you don't have time to be bored

I can see the wife is having second thoughts and she only quit four hours ago, we will just see how this goes.

Personally I think some help a few times a week would be good, but we will ride this out a bit and see what needs to happen, the biggy really seems to be laundry and ironing. I won't let her get overworked but enough to keep her mind going seems like a good thing.

I think the problem is going to come in when I go on bike rides I believe she will mis that but I think she can work that out if she really wants to go.

It was funny a two day trip to Lao is coming up on the 26Th and 27Th, I wasn't going anyway, it's Thai sponsored trip and I don't think they realize what it takes for a farrang to go over especially with his bike. But the wifey immediatly said we couldn't go because we ahd no one to watch the dog.

[wansman]

Ray, there are always things that you will not want to do. They may not take up too much time or not be difficult but you or you wife just may not like doing them. I don't mind cleaning the toilets, doing the dishes, dusting but I have wall to wall carpeting and I HATE to vacuum.

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Ray, there are always things that you will not want to do. They may not take up too much time or not be difficult but you or you wife just may not like doing them. I don't mind cleaning the toilets, doing the dishes, dusting but I have wall to wall carpeting and I HATE to vacuum.

Well I decided to take up the yard work, I need something to do as well, just don't tell immigration. Laundry here is not like there it truly is a big process washing machine or not. Dryers are not used so you don't start out with fluff and fold cycle on the dryer. Makes Ironing a completly different experience. I worked six and seven days a week in the states 12 hours a day and was still able to take care of just about everything except pressing shirts and such, General laundry yes but not the dress clothes I needed for work. That I took out. Now that I'm retired I have no idea how I got everyhting done, but I did.

I want her to be as busy as she wants and I think it makes her feel more valuable. Her big job in life was as a house keeper for an older Thia couple before she met me. She has the experience to handle it, but I would love for her to have time for fun as well. You know a balance, I never achieved it but maybe she can

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Ray, there are always things that you will not want to do. They may not take up too much time or not be difficult but you or you wife just may not like doing them. I don't mind cleaning the toilets, doing the dishes, dusting but I have wall to wall carpeting and I HATE to vacuum.

Well the first day wthtout the housekeeper, the little wifey seems to be just fine, walking around first thing in the morning big smile on her face. It just may turn out that I will be the one who misses the housekeeper, the lively conversation and joking going on in Thai.

[valentine]

If at any time you intend going back home, a housekeeper is a luxury. In England, outside of hotels etc, it is rare to see a cleaning woman, and no wonder why. I contacted an agency who offered to supply one, an immigrant who didn,t speak a word of English, didn't read it either for the "modest " sum of 100 pounds a week, plus their fee of 3 weeks wages for supplying, working 25 hrs a week. Yes the equivalent of 30,000bht a month. So why start a habit here that they wouldn't get in your country?
Even my TW said'No way, I can do cheaper"

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If at any time you intend going back home, a housekeeper is a luxury. In England, outside of hotels etc, it is rare to see a cleaning woman, and no wonder why. I contacted an agency who offered to supply one, an immigrant who didn,t speak a word of English, didn't read it either for the "modest " sum of 100 pounds a week, plus their fee of 3 weeks wages for supplying, working 25 hrs a week. Yes the equivalent of 30,000bht a month. So why start a habit here that they wouldn't get in your country?
Even my TW said'No way, I can do cheaper"

Well no intention of going anywhere so that is not a worry. Wife just seems to be happier, but she has now mentioned she misses the house keeper, not because of the work. Her famliy had become friends. But I think we all know the answer to that one don't need to buy friends

[valentine]

Surely, as a friend, she wouldn't expect paying anyway? LOL

[Alagrl]

Working full-time with travel required, what I WANT is a full-time housekeeper who will do everything including packing my suitcase. What I can afford (thanks to college tuition costs) is a weekly cleaning service. For $65, all I have done is the "heavy" cleaning like floors, bathrooms, linens, etc. -- and Susannah doesn't even touch the guest room and office, no laundry, and can't leave the house with anything electrical running (dishwasher) due to liability insurance requirements.

But really, I would chafe at a full-time housekeeper -- there's a certain level of privacy I want that simply disappears with having someone else in the house to that degree.

[yorkman]

Working full-time with travel required, what I WANT is a full-time housekeeper who will do everything including packing my suitcase. What I can afford (thanks to college tuition costs) is a weekly cleaning service. For $65, all I have done is the "heavy" cleaning like floors, bathrooms, linens, etc. -- and Susannah doesn't even touch the guest room and office, no laundry, and can't leave the house with anything electrical running (dishwasher) due to liability insurance requirements.

But really, I would chafe at a full-time housekeeper -- there's a certain level of privacy I want that simply disappears with having someone else in the house to that degree.

Ahhhh.....USA...UK. or any westernised country.. but in Thailand your privacy disappears. So if you do move to Thailand....just accept it, a cultural norm. I still find it hard sometimes, but its the western culture, outlook and values that does this.

A house full , whether its housekeepers, or relatives who want to, unintentionally, intrude on your privacy it is normal.

John

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Working full-time with travel required, what I WANT is a full-time housekeeper who will do everything including packing my suitcase. What I can afford (thanks to college tuition costs) is a weekly cleaning service. For $65, all I have done is the "heavy" cleaning like floors, bathrooms, linens, etc. -- and Susannah doesn't even touch the guest room and office, no laundry, and can't leave the house with anything electrical running (dishwasher) due to liability insurance requirements.

But really, I would chafe at a full-time housekeeper -- there's a certain level of privacy I want that simply disappears with having someone else in the house to that degree.

Ahhhh.....USA...UK. or any westernised country.. but in Thailand your privacy disappears. So if you do move to Thailand....just accept it, a cultural norm. I still find it hard sometimes, but its the western culture, outlook and values that does this.

A house full , whether its housekeepers, or relatives who want to, unintentionally, intrude on your privacy it is normal.

John

Second day no housekeeper and Moma is happy, thats a good thing Moma ain't happy ain't nobody happy