Is it better to take your bride to your home?

[quinault11]

Udon is too rustic. I will, I goona take her back home after she graduates from Rajatpat.

[konstabel els]

My wife has beeen in the UK for sometime now and like most they get the best of both worlds - can go England -Thailand whenever she likes ( all at Mugginn's here's expense )coming from riral Isaan she was suprised what a slum britains inner cities are,( not quite the south london I grew up in ) but also how rude some of the women are in leafy surburbia,
on one positive note she loves the English countryside - handy for me, means shitloads more of scrumpy jack ( now thats something I do miss in Thailand )

[beer monkey]

more of scrumpy jack ( now thats something I do miss in Thailand )

You can get some ciders now Kontstabel....even in sleepy Udon-ville.

http://www.udonmap.com/udonthaniforum/v ... php?t=8890

[konstabel els]

Good news beer monkey, this trips getting better all the time - wife shopping, me in pub, BLISS!! - hey, I hope you guys dont think I'm some sort of P*** artist

[westerby]

Despite me being twice her age (though of course I don't look it!! ) we (to my surprise) got stared at quite infrequently.

Yeah, TGFs and TWs are becoming more and more apparent in the UK these days...more than you can shake a stick at, anyway.

I don't think my wife/GF (nor many) would be happy in the medium term with the colder temperatures, nor the different foods and lack of spicy foods.

Yeah, my missus has never got used to the cold (s'pose I better work out how the central heating works). But I reckon the Thai food supply has got a lot better over the years, what with places like Wing Yip supermarket and the like.

The big morale booster for TGFs and TWs living in UK is having mates. They bicker and back stab just like you lot over in UTH but they're thick as thieves. However, woe betide any girl that tries it on with someone else's husband.

[beer monkey]

Yes barely a day goes by when i don't spot another Thai female, all sounds familiar with the bickering back stabbing ,tittle tattle and stuff westers...mine don't like to mix so i am pleased about that....and food is not a prob, even spotted salted black crabs(Poo Dum) all that way from Thailand in our local store also 12baht bottles of lipo at 50p a pop and 'Nam' (fermented pork) in the chiller/freezer..pickled mud fish in abundance fruits-noodles-rice-Chang beer-pocky choccy-Thai mags-(not jazz mags.. ) etc etc. all fresh off a THAI 747.

Last night meal = Khow mun Gai with clear soup...same same as Thailand.

Todays Lunch = Gawetiew Moo Dang noodle soup...same same as Thailand.

[konstabel els]

I have to agree with both of westerby and beer monkey , ( don't get me wrong , The Konstabel is not softening !! ) but it is best that they make friends , my wife has made some Thai friends, but some of her friends keep constantly arguing with eachother , from my point of view - over nothing, personally I see the funny side to it - where would any woman be without a bit of juicy gossip? - they should take the Englishman's approach - 'ah well , never mind, let's go and have a pint '

[designer]

Hi guys, I brought my wife to south africa 9 months ago she now speaks english very well ,her child is still in thailand with her mother ,she has a good life out here is running a little hairdressers but misses her family so much that it is now a big problem ,I have asked her to bring the boy out here but she is hesitating because its the whole village life that she is missing,The idea was that i would work for another 2 years so as to make sure i have enough capital to last me in retirement.anyway she wants to stay in thailand when we come there in december ,I am not sure I can handle a long distance marrage
I would like advice from anyone who has or is in this situation .some flowers wilt when transplanted
she is a lovely girl with a great spirit , i dont want her to be unhappy or to loos her ,she tells me she loves it here but her soul is in thailand,
thanks designer

[beer monkey]

will it be that bad...her living back home in the village, you possibly having several trips back to see her per year, 2 years will fly by.

[Ter]

It's not that bad so long as you stay in regular contact, just do the usual and try not to argue, distance can hinder so it is important to stay positive and calm,its a test of a relationship be it good or bad and a learning curve.
I stayed in the uk for three months then udon for one month at a time, then we decided to plan ahead and build businesses and property, it has taken a couple of years and within the next six months i will be back for good.
I wish you luck and i feel sure there is plenty of guys on this site that have good advice as they have many years of experience between them.

Ter
p.s. it does fly by

[saint]

designer . it sounds to me like your wife is just home sick , which is understandable . why dont you suggest when you come over, she stay here for a couple of months with the family in the village , whilst you return to south africa , and then rejoin you there later ? that would be a compromise that is fairer to you both .

[designer]

Yes Saint, i came to the same conclusion thats what i am going to do ,Hope to meet some of you guys when i am in udon at christmas , Thanks

[izzix]

withdrawal symptoms from no being able to eat somtum are as bad as a crack cocaine addict going without his fix .
they really are addicted to the chillie buzz they get from that stuff .
then they turn into a crazy knife wielding maniac at your throat with a large kitchen knife .

[izzix]

i had better explain ,since i had my gals jugs improved with silicon the doctor told her not to eat somtum or any very spicy food for 2 months . she has been badly affected by the lack of a daily somtum fix .
definately more moody and depressed whereas before she was always as nice as pie with non stop smilies.

[saint]

i had better explain ,since i had my gals jugs improved with silicon the doctor told her not to eat somtum or any very spicy food for 2 months . she has been badly affected by the lack of a daily somtum fix .
definately more moody and depressed whereas before she was always as nice as pie with non stop smilies.

i think you may have a very good point here izzix , i never see my wife happier than when shes got something hot and spicy in her mouth , [no , dont even go there guys , im talking food here !!! ] has anyone else experienced this lack of chilli , leading to bad moods and depression syndrone ? could make a good new topic .

[aznyron]

saint I won't go there but you did bring a smile to my face

[tamada]

i had better explain ,since i had my gals jugs improved with silicon the doctor told her not to eat somtum or any very spicy food for 2 months . she has been badly affected by the lack of a daily somtum fix .
definately more moody and depressed whereas before she was always as nice as pie with non stop smilies.

i think you may have a very good point here izzix , i never see my wife happier than when shes got something hot and spicy in her mouth , [no , dont even go there guys , im talking food here !!! ] has anyone else experienced this lack of chilli , leading to bad moods and depression syndrone ? could make a good new topic .

It may not be the lack of chilli but a note to izzix. After my ex- had her tits enhanced, she changed from knife-wielding haradan to gun-toting psycho.

[westerby]

It may not be the lack of chilli but a note to izzix. After my ex- had her tits enhanced, she changed from knife-wielding haradan to gun-toting psycho.

Is this the same lady that tried to shoot you or is there a trend developing? I am reminded of Liz Hurley with the machine gun breasts in Austin Powers II.


Anyway, moving back on topic and an open question, how long was it before your wives returned to LOS after they had settled in their adoptive Farang country?

[cyclist]

My wife has always had a hankering to to visit England with me.

A couple of years ago I took her over the border to Vientiene for two days while I did the normal Visa thing. After going to the office to get things started we decided to go and eat. A couple of hours later, and after visiting numerous restuarants and her looking at just about every variety of dish the Lao's could cook, she decided that she would buy a supply of packet noodle soups and heat them up in the hotel. At this point and with steam coming out of my ears, I asked her what the hell was wrong with Lao food, its no different from Thai food. Her reply a'h but not same same darling.
As we wandered of in different directions, her to the hotel and me to the curry house down on the Mae Kong I decided I would never take her abroad again.

[tamada]

Is this the same lady that tried to shoot you or is there a trend developing? I am reminded of Liz Hurley with the machine gun breasts in Austin Powers II.

Yup, the very same one. Not a trend though, my new one is 'different'...

Anyway, moving back on topic and an open question, how long was it before your wives returned to LOS after they had settled in their adoptive Farang country?

The first one, that bitch (but I'm not bitter) made one trip with me home to the clan cave and kinda liked it. It was summer after all and driving through the Scottish highlands with pipes & drums blaring from the cassette deck was quite cute. But it was never our plan to move there full time (good bloody job too).

The new one has been with me to Vietnam, Singapore and Laos and depending on how work shakes out next year, she will visit the clan cave too so mum can go to her maker reassured that her only son hasn't buggered things up again.

I can't see the value in taking them home but in my case, I have been an expat since I graduated and to be honest, I wouldn't have a clue myself about making a home and probably end up eating instant noodles as well.