Your thoughts on this stuation

[BKKSTAN]

I think you are getting to proactive in your ''detective'' work Goon.She is what you want or she isn't,give it some time to come out in the wash!

If she understands that deception is not acceptable at this point by you and she is really interested in you,what are you worried about?

Trying to manage her life to keep her from doing something deceptive will only prolong the process if she is not everything you desire.Then when and if the ''bad girl'' shows up,you will have more pain for your troubles and vested interest!

If she is a good girl she will not compromise your relationship by be involved with actions that would offend you!

Manage your resources ,not her and you will be much better off ,no matter how it turns out,unless your desire is to be Lord and Master,which I would not be supportive of!

[goonersh]

I think you are getting to proactive in your ''detective'' work Goon.She is what you want or she isn't,give it some time to come out in the wash!

If she understands that deception is not acceptable at this point by you and she is really interested in you,what are you worried about?

Trying to manage her life to keep her from doing something deceptive will only prolong the process if she is not everything you desire.Then when and if the ''bad girl'' shows up,you will have more pain for your troubles and vested interest!

If she is a good girl she will not compromise your relationship by be involved with actions that would offend you!

Manage your resources ,not her and you will be much better off ,no matter how it turns out,unless your desire is to be Lord and Master,which I would not be supportive of!

I was only answering the "lets not go there" comment... Ive already decided that she does what she has to do.... but if there are obvious lies going on.. then i sort of want to know... she did say when im back i can go watch her in kumpa...and she did say her brother works there too... so we will see

Ss for the lord and master bit... she is VERY strong willed and fiery...so i doubt that will happen.... and i find that hot hot hot in a very sexy way

thanks, i take on board what you say with gratitude

[747man]

Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate.....

[Kevro]

Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate.....

Hi 747.

I had a brother incident in my young single days in Phuket. Was a bit unsure about driving so the girl I was seeing at the time said her brother was here and he could drive. Had a great day, went all over the island, bought him lots of food and drinks and cash for driving. Later found out it was the Thai BF.

Was not amused.

Kevro

[747man]

Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate.....

Hi 747.

I had a brother incident in my young single days in Phuket. Was a bit unsure about driving so the girl I was seeing at the time said her brother was here and he could drive. Had a great day, went all over the island, bought him lots of food and drinks and cash for driving. Later found out it was the Thai BF.

Was not amused.

Kevro

EXACTLY, Kev,This is what I am trying to tell Gooner...

[goonersh]

Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate.....

Cheerz 747, yes i am sure its her brother.. ive seen the pics of them when they were young... seen the blue ID book thing, seen his ID card....(same surname) seen the school reports from both of them...plus they both look exactly like each other... he also lives with the mum n dad... Even before we planned to be together she was telling me about her family... and that included one brother and two parents

I sort of suspected the place in Kumpawapi would be like one of those places....but i wont judge... ill just go there myself next month...and take it from there

cheerz for more heads up people.. i AM being careful (i hope)

[trubrit]

[quote="747man"]Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate..... [/quo
My point was . We are now getting into local, and therefore, identifiable territory.It does not need much stretch of the imagination, as many farangs live that way, for someone to have personal knowledge of the lass. God or bad, but it would seem to be starting to become a witch hunt. I suggest to the OP that as you say you have accepted the situation, you let it ride until you come here again. However if it is still bugging you, its obvious that you find the previous, deceit, lies or misunderstandings, whatever you like to call them, are upsetting your equilibrium. In which case you have to make a final decision. Self torture, especially from a distance, can and will be hell.

[747man]

O.K So Pre-Warned is Pre-Armed !!!!

[goonersh]

Oh Gooner !! Khumpawapi (Caberet & Singing ) Tis Bangkok WITHOUT the BRIGHT Lights,But still have Leachers.......Get it KNOW, Thats why Trubrit ( Val ) DID'NT want to go there..... As for her Brother....Are you 100 % CERTAIN it is Her BROTHER.....Take Care,Mate.....

My point was . We are now getting into local, and therefore, identifiable territory.It does not need much stretch of the imagination, as many farangs live that way, for someone to have personal knowledge of the lass. God or bad, but it would seem to be starting to become a witch hunt. I suggest to the OP that as you say you have accepted the situation, you let it ride until you come here again. However if it is still bugging you, its obvious that you find the previous, deceit, lies or misunderstandings, whatever you like to call them, are upsetting your equilibrium. In which case you have to make a final decision. Self torture, especially from a distance, can and will be hell.

Ok then, has ANYONE seen her before???? and i DO trust her... so far, we all tell porkies in life.....all will be revealed in August i guess.....

[Laan Yaa Mo]

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[goonersh]

she sent me sms of the name of the place but i cant get it ont my PC.. and its in thai!!!!!!
I seem to be enjoying the Issan music ATM....but i dont get the point of the video because i dont understand it...

sorry

[souness]

Nifty, You'll ANNOY souness with comments like that.......Keep it UP !!!! But take care,HE is a Kirkby Boy & Theyre HARD......

anyone who has a user name of a ex liverpool player must be a right wally is that the posh bit west kirby

Nah ! Kirkby is a different place,a bit like Baghdad, ( NOW that is sure to upset HIM ) West Kirby is a POSH Place....

hey 747,by coincidince i was in the british army serving in iraq in the first gulf war in 1991.from my experiences i would say kirkby on a friday or saturday night is far more dangerous.ha ha !
nifty,so whats your team then? what part of kumpawhapi you from ? me and my mate in udon around 25 aug so maybe we could meet up for a beer or two? ive been looking for a trade since i left the army and have always fancied dentistry.so hows about i buy the beers but get to practice on your teeth for free? deal?
gooner,sorry to hijack yore thread.see yore up to 110 posts now in 5 days.even if you come from a quiet part of oz where men are men and sheep are nervous,and theres not much else to do,thats pretty impressive.
maybe time for a change now innit...get it...ha ha!

sean

[goonersh]

Sean, i wonder if we know the same people given your background... and its ok for a thread to diverify now and again... and to be honest i dont know much about Udon to be amassive poster across the whole forum... yet... ill be there then too (august)... but please dont bring a can of soup!

[rick]

If she is sending you info in Thai script, just cut and paste into Google translate, it may come up with a translation (i use it and find it fairly good, but forget grammar).

[beer monkey]

Just for you Goonersh....

http://translate.google.com/translate_t ... 4%E0%B8%B5

[goonersh]

I use google translate but..i have lost the cable to take sms off my phone and onto the pc...Its how i SMS her... with Skype... god skype is cheap!!!!

thanks for the two links peoples. Im going to get a new cable tomorrow.. the ONE time i need it.. and its vanished... typical.... maybe its a "conspiracy" hahahahah

She told me a bit more about it tonight... but who knows if uunderstood it right.. she said men and women sing there.... thai people dance and are drunk... .. no flowers... no sex

She said her mum and dad went there with her and her brother today to see it... only time will tell if she is being honest as i am going to go there whan i get over there...

she is being EXTRA hot and cute ATM.... hehehe
nite nite

[konstabel els]

I am coming back in four weeks to spend another month with her.

You have answered your own question. Keep coming back again and again for a while until the initial infatuation wears off a little and you can see things without the rose tinted spectacles. I wish you every success.

Dont know about that , My Thai wife has helped me through situations - when I've been skint - and we've been together a good few years now, it's a case of 'Ha sip Ha sip ' my advice is - don't ever expect to have a ' romantic meal together ' in nong bua - the whole tribe turns up !!

[DeNuit]

Goonersh, if you have plenty of time on your hands, reading and posting is good yes, but perhaps you should push yourself learning some thai too ? Say one hour a day ? Or two ? I'm sure that would help, even if it is just basic, to be able to communicate little things with her parents & familly.

I still think that after the month together, if things are sweet between you two, you should move up to the three months in Aussiland with you on a tourist visa for her. Living with you at your place for these months will be the real test as to how much you like being together long time.

As some already said, as the man you are expected to make the decisions. If it was me (it isn't but just to give my idea about it), if the month go well together, I would give her 10K baht to buy herself a passerport (if she hasn't one) and to take some English lessons and get her a tourist visa to come to my (your) place to lives there 3 months. Pay her the return-ticket (directly, not sending her the money) and then spend the 3 months together (during wich you will know each other better, how you can live together at your place, she can learn more English, etc). If you are both happy and want to carry on the relationship, you can then start to talk about weeding, sin sod, etc. . She will know by then your financial situation, how much money you will need to live correctly in Aussiland, etc... she will be able to tell her parents then how much the sin sod should be, having in her mind the protection of your both financial life in Aussiland. Personnaly, I would also agree with her then at a maximum money I would send per year to help her parents. Of course, when she has a job latter, she would be able to send some of her money to her parents too. As financial support of the familly is important to thai, I would get these points straight from the start.

But first things first. The month together --> good ? if yes, the 3 months together at your place--> good ? if yes, then how do we organise to live together longuer (marriage etc.).

All the best for your relationship.

[BKKSTAN]

Google translate is OK for individual words,sometimes,but the context can becom confusing when using it for sentences and phrases.Thai is a simple language compared to English.I would be very careful using it for any serious questions or statements,as the intentions and real meaning of your remarks might be misconstrued.

[designer]

Hi there,Goonersh,Do you believe in love/lust at first sight? then go for it ,if you dont have a lot of cash you cannot loos a lot, I went through the same thing two and a half year ago met a girl on line someone else writing ,went to meet her in nongbuha ,no english,so many questions that could not be answered, stayed with her one week came home and got her a passport / visa 3 month
have been married now almost two years best thing i ever done ,plus she is also a pretty girl ,
If I had to give some advice to guys looking for thai ladies ,get one with a sense humour you wont go wrong , cannot resist do they call you goon for short ,just joking