Love or Money?

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Post by Bump » November 14, 2006, 11:49 am

Talked with a Brit I know yesterday in hte mall and trust me his story left me weeping. The guy is in his 70's had been set for life, now ruined and headed back to the UK.

It happens here more then I like to think about. All from the very person that by definition you should trust the most and she was professional no bar girl. I guess it's the heart not where the person comes from.



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Post by Danish » November 15, 2006, 2:33 pm

If I lost all my money tomorrow, What would you do?"Without hesitation she replied, "Play the internet again"

I think that if you need to ask that question, you already know the ansver. I have also asked my boyfriend it, and even through i hope he love me the way I love him, I deep down know he don't. I am sure he loves me his own way. But it's the Thai way, and it's not the way western people do. I have talked with many Thai woman about Farang/ Thai relationships. And they "love" there husbands because they are good providers, good fathers and good husbands. I don't think you can say, they only love us for our money, its more than that. But on the other hand, they would probobly not look to our side, if we didn't have money. And honestly, why should they. Most of us are a lot older, and a lot less atractive as our partners.

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Post by Bump » November 15, 2006, 11:20 pm

A interesting day, seems a much as we would like to say this is a farrang thing I think not. We met a Thai guy about a month ago working here and his family is in Korat. Been married for twelve years, his wifes family will not let him even talk to her. It seem that for several years this guy made good money and sent 10K a month to the wifes family. Well he doesn't make as much these days the family isn't getting thier money so it's time for him to go.

I've seen the exact same thing with Thai men before. TT (Tis Thailand) for Thai men as well.

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Post by butterfly » November 19, 2006, 7:33 am

but how about theses young thai girls from these online introduction agencies like office , shops gils and stdents and farang relationship i mean in general or they after love or walking atm. some light on that please from senior members

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Post by laphanphon » November 19, 2006, 8:43 am

senior members
i hope that's map member, not senior citizen, yet, give me a couple more years.

unfortunitely it's worldwide, friend got scammed in states, american/american on internet. she even used a different picture, but didn't scam him for much, as he wised up, but only after he sent her a check. she unfortunitely told her a few honest things and i tracked her down and met her one day. shocked her, since we were living in different state, she just happen to be close to where i grew up.

i'm sure many of the gals or guys are just looking for love, as everyone wants to be happy. if flexible, as i am, a cute smile and your half the way there, so can fall in love easy, having a lot money would be a plus, and make you more desireabe. better to be in love with money than without. when you meet a gal in bar and she asks you where you live, work or what car you drive, she is doing nothing but checking you credit background. zip code, expensive houses, company you work for, decent salary, car, extra money for toys, we have a winner. love is always a good motive, w/money as second thought. unfortunitely too many think about money and scamming more than one at a time. once in a while you see them at the shops, talking it up with couple guys, basically just copy and paste mentality to each for the same thing, money. this just giving all of them a bad name. sadly just the scammers get noticed and the ones with true hearts do the right thing, but it's boring to talk about them.

love and money, and the goes round.

maybe my next one will have lots of money :D

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Post by BKKSTAN » November 19, 2006, 11:09 am

butterfly wrote:but how about theses young thai girls from these online introduction agencies like office , shops gils and stdents and farang relationship i mean in general or they after love or walking atm. some light on that please from senior members
:lol: :lol: We might want to look at what the guys useing these agencies are about?Are they looking for a girl with a particular look,size background,age etc.?Why are they using an agency?Do you believe that any man or woman can ''love'' someone that they have not spend time with?

My point!Why question the motives of these girls?Are they of lower standards than the men?

I would imagine that there are some men and some women that are shy and need the service for introduction.There is going to be both good and bad people involved,motive wise.

Speaking only of Thailand,there are many women that would like to have a different lifestyle than what they perceive they will have with a Thai partner.There are many that take the opportunity and the chance to meet and experience what a falang man is all about.
There are many that are scamming,but one should not consider security first as a negative attitude.It is a natural attitude as long as human history has been recorded!
I met my first fiancee on the net.Talked to her for about 6 months after ''weeding her out of hundreds!She seemed to be everything she said she was ,except she had a common trait of telling ''small lies'' and then being deceptive to cover them up because she suddenly realized that ''it'' was not acceptable to me!
In every other way she was fantastic,but once one of my biggest concerns,honesty,was broached,we were doomed and it was hard for both of us to let go!I was lucky in the sense that she was not a thief or a scammer .Our car was in her name and she signed it back to me.
I realized afterwards,that I didn't get the message across initially about how important honesty was to me and I also realized that I didn't understand ''face'' at that time either.
As in all experiences ,something very positive came out of the ashes and helped me in my present marriage of 6 years!
Seems like the divorce rate everywhere is approx. 50%,so if you have your own priorities in order,I would imagine that you could meet some potentials on the net!If you are to needy to state clearly your priorities and stick to them,I would think you could get in trouble or ''short term''lucky :lol:

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Post by jetdoc » November 19, 2006, 12:06 pm

I've seen to many of these relationships where the falang uses the money to control the lady, by default these relationships are about money. The integrity of the people involved in the relationship will determine where the love/money equation settles in. Myself, I deal with the reality rather than the perception. If that makes me just another old fool, so what!!

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Post by BKKSTAN » November 19, 2006, 12:08 pm

:lol: And the lady using youthful bodies to control the guy :lol:

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Post by jetdoc » November 19, 2006, 12:22 pm

Fair enough;o)

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Post by jetdoc » November 19, 2006, 12:24 pm

Oh I almost forgot these relationships are about sex by default.

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Post by Bump » November 19, 2006, 4:21 pm

Internet dating is interesting in the states i di a lot with working 6 day a week 12 hour days i really didn;t have a lot of time. So were OK some were not. I have met guys here who met, girl on the net, married and them to be doing just fine. Othre sammed. I made one here fom the net a definite no go. Since I had time here I stopped using it.

I woud say this they ask for money before you even really meet them hit the delete button and move on.

If you think something in common with them then plan a trip to really get them. the internet is a great tool to introduce yroself to someone but beyond that you need one on one time.

Now that thing in common could be she is a cold stone fox to you and that gives you some motivation, hers could be yuo got a good check and that motivates her.

Thats enough for a meeting to see where things really are.

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Post by Harry1534 » November 19, 2006, 11:40 pm

Are you guys drunk when you post? You're English is bloody awful! Half the time I haven't got a clue what you're talking about and the other half I don't think you do either!

I mean to say, come on, what a load of rubbish!!
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Post by valentine » November 20, 2006, 3:17 am

Love or Money? Don't normally get involved in this sort of topic but I decided to ask my wife. Her reply? Why can't I have both? :lol:

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Post by ady » November 20, 2006, 3:19 am

what do you mean that you don't understand harry1534?!!

it's simple! just think of it as thai translated into english:

viz:
leave out the particle.
leave out the real meaning.
no plural items.
don't bother to mess with proper verb forms.

and finally, 'don't think too mutt!!'
what happens next?

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Post by skipvice » November 20, 2006, 3:54 am

valentine wrote:Love or Money? Don't normally get involved in this sort of topic but I decided to ask my wife. Her reply? Why can't I have both? :lol:


Funny, thats what my wife said :o

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Post by valentine » November 20, 2006, 3:57 am

Harry1534 wrote:Are you guys drunk when you post? You're English is bloody awful! Half the time I haven't got a clue what you're talking about and the other half I don't think you do either!

I mean to say, come on, what a load of rubbish!!
Wasn't aware you had to be of a certain interlectual ability to be a forum member :!: I'm not the brightest spark around and I can understand. just wonder why you can't Harry :!: :lol:

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Post by laphanphon » November 20, 2006, 6:37 am

I'm with you Val, if I can understand Ray, sorry, and I'm far from the sharpest tack in the pack, then, not mentioning anyone in particular :D , there is some reading comprehension skills of a member that needs improving. Obviously our writing comprehension isn't going to improve, so easier for one to improve, instead of the rest of us. :D

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Post by BKKSTAN » November 20, 2006, 8:35 am

Harry1534 wrote:Are you guys drunk when you post? You're English is bloody awful! Half the time I haven't got a clue what you're talking about and the other half I don't think you do either!

I mean to say, come on, what a load of rubbish!!
:lol: :lol: Some might be drunk,some of us are just Americans :lol: For the love or money,we just don't understand the English :wink: ,language :lol: We need the tolerance of the Tourist Police,be kind to us :lol:

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Post by Bump » November 20, 2006, 3:30 pm

Harry1534 wrote:Are you guys drunk when you post? You're English is bloody awful! Half the time I haven't got a clue what you're talking about and the other half I don't think you do either!

I mean to say, come on, what a load of rubbish!!
Yes now we are all happy 8)

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Post by Harry1534 » November 20, 2006, 4:19 pm

Okay, okay. Point taken. I guess I can by and, afetr (see...doing well already!). I'll say that again.
Yep, definitely getting the hang of it now!

Sorry, what were you saying? Oh, yes. After re reading all the posts (wot a feat!) I do realise it isn't all rubbish. Learned one or two fings as well.

Cheers guys! :)
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