Question for the Isaan village dwellers

Post by **lynxlynx** » December 21, 2007, 9:09 am

I'd appreciate your opinion on the following:

I have to meet somebody in a village in Isaan (near Udon) next year. The person I intend visit will not be expecting me. Her reaction will be one of surprise, excitement, fear, curiosity and overwhelming greed elevated through the roof. What I would like to know is how this sudden appearance will be considered by the family (who has never known me) and the villagers and what effect will this have on the person I intend to meet there.

I wish there was some other way (not all that excited about visiting the place) but there is none.

Thank you.

Post by **Artfullmover** » December 21, 2007, 9:49 am

It is something I wouldnt do.... even though I like adventure. Id rather go mountain climbing with my hands tied behind my back.

Some thai girls live two lives that can be extremely different from each other.

There are so many scenarios on how it could play out and im not all that sure most would be comfortable for you or the girl.

Best of luck never the less.

Post by **ronan01** » December 21, 2007, 9:56 am

How would you feel if somebody arrived at your (parents) door without warning?

Why do you need to surprise this person?

Best to keep things simple, open and honest - why complicate matters?

Post by **Prenders88** » December 21, 2007, 10:06 am

lynxlynx wrote:I'd appreciate your opinion on the following:

I have to meet somebody in a village in Isaan (near Udon) next year. The person I intend visit will not be expecting me. Her reaction will be one of surprise, excitement, fear, curiosity and overwhelming greed elevated through the roof. What I would like to know is how this sudden appearance will be considered by the family (who has never known me) and the villagers and what effect will this have on the person I intend to meet there.

I wish there was some other way (not all that excited about visiting the place) but there is none.

Thank you.

They (Her family) will think their boat has come in. Pa will jump on his motorsi and go straight to the car dealers and pick up a few brochures.
She will be terribly embarrassed, about the house looking untidy, and might worry about your lavatorial arrangements. Take plenty of beer, cigarettes, and wet wipes. Smile a lot, and be prepared to have old ladies walk up to with red stained gums, and pinch your white skin and cackle like witches. They will want to know when you're getting married.

Post by **Maligator** » December 21, 2007, 10:10 am

Is this to get a certain stone back ??

B careful my friend.

laphanphon · Post by **laphanphon** » December 21, 2007, 10:17 am

i don't feed the trolls but nice aviator Prender, though a bit depressing. i think i saw him on the streets of philly last time there, and it wasn't even xmas. on a positive spin, something for the ladies at xmas time..........................

laphanphon · Post by **laphanphon** » December 21, 2007, 10:23 am

have a few of santa's female elves, but since this isn't nightlife thread and isara doesn't want nude (oops), porn or hormone stimulating pics on their site (which i hope the above doesn't stir anyone's hormones), i guess i'll have to keep the elves to myself. that's a shame...............

Post by **keg** » December 21, 2007, 11:13 am

I lived in my wifes village for about 3 months with her prior to moving back to Udon. I know her family well and we are welcome anytime, but even we call them prior to showing up as courtesy even though not reqired. For some reason you want this to be a suprise and can't extend that basic courtesy so you have to assume your visit will not go over well with the family. You don't say what the nature of your visit is but it does not seem like it is for something good such as you have won the lottery or something of that nature, so again you have to assume you won't be welcomed with open arms. In fact, it seems like you may want to be confrontational in some fashion and that will go over even worse. I would heed Maligators good advice.

Above was just speaking of the family. The rest of the village will be even more curious to what the story is. If you are not seen as being there to anounce your engagement or marriage to the girl, her and the family will be looked down on for being involved with a farang on a casual basis. If a confrontation occurs that confirms that she was involved with you in the past, it will be seen as even worse.
It seems as though you want the family to lose face. Even if they were aware of or complcit in something bad the girl did in the past, causing them to lose face in a confrontational manner for all the village to see, and involving a farang, is a dangerous game.

If I have read this wrong and you are going there unannounced for a good reason, then maybe things could be different. The villagers will be instantly judging you to determine how rich you are and more important how rich her family will become. When I moved to the village, talk was that I was poor since I only owned a motorcyle and moved to the village and rented a house. Everyones first question was what I did and how much money I made. After buying a new truck I was suddenly vaulted to millionaire status even though nothing had changed. They automattically assumed her family was rich and everyone started asking her mother for money. Bottom line people start to become jealous of the families new status in the village, real or not, and look for anything to say bad about the family.

I am not sure of your intentions with this visit, but face and status in a small village is a real issue and the families loss of face in public will not go down well. The villages reaction may also relate to how big her village is and how much they have dealt with farangs in the past. If it's not too personal, explain your reason for going unannounced and maybe we can better judge the reaction.

Keg

Post by **BKKSTAN** » December 21, 2007, 11:24 am

IMO,It could not be said any better than Keg's post!!Your motives sound dubious the way you posted your statement!

Post by **Maligator** » December 21, 2007, 11:31 am

i don't feed the trolls but nice aviator Prender, though a bit depressing.

That is DISCUSTING !!

and to think up until now...
I did believe in Santa..

Bawwwwwwww
Bawwwww
Bawwwwwww

But he does look alittle saucy in those boots..

laphanphon · Post by **laphanphon** » December 21, 2007, 12:15 pm

It could not be said any better than Keg's post

if lynxlynx is not a troll (yea, right), with way too much time on his hands, then his visit and motives don't sound good for any positive outcome. and of course will give the family and village more reason to hate farangs......................thanks for the help.

excellent post Keg, sometimes this place is a no win situation, damned if you do/don't. just another good lesson for those attenting the free internet home study couses at udonmap, on your way to a diploma from WBU. hopefully free of on hands study with a failing grade.

Post by **Roadman** » December 21, 2007, 12:15 pm

"and overwhelming greed elevated through the roof"

My usual dumb fecker question but if this is the opinion then why would one waste their time?

Post by **Naam Jai** » December 21, 2007, 3:12 pm

LOS Rules OK

1.If you can't own it, don't, property I mean. There are ways...
2. Keep your cards and money close to your chest.
3 Keep your powder dry,you don't want liquid arms and legs.
Remember they are professionals in the art of extracting 1, 2 AND 3

I think that covers it.

Post by **treehugger** » December 21, 2007, 6:12 pm

I wholeheartedly endorse Kegs advice, and would also see if I can find out in advance whether the father/boyfriend/husband/family or neighbours owns a gun.

Escapades like this put us all in a bad light, and I wish that if you want to be confrontational or unpleasant you would do it in your own contry and let Thailand remain the LOS

Post by **Flashman** » December 21, 2007, 6:40 pm

I feel a song coming on.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJmBPCYt5LY

Post by **Butch USMC** » December 22, 2007, 5:06 am

Lots of good advice. I agree you don't want to be confrontational in the village. Bring lots of beer and cigs to smooth your arrival. I had a water well put in my girl's village as part of my Thesis at Water Buffalo University and now I can come and go as I please.

Post by **Ricohoc** » December 22, 2007, 6:57 am

LA, I could have gone FOREVER and not seen that pic of Santa.

As to the question asked by lynxlynx, I'd say "Don't do it." It's like a box of chocolates. You never know what either of you are going to find.

I would announce ahead of time.

Post by **lynxlynx** » December 22, 2007, 7:19 am

laphanphon wrote:
if lynxlynx is not a troll (yea, right), with way too much time on his hands, then his visit and motives don't sound good for any positive outcome. and of course will give the family and village more reason to hate farangs......................thanks for the help

For my taste, you label people as trolls way too fast and way too often. This was a legitimate question of mine and if you didn't feel like answering it, then you could have just kept quiet. As far as I've noticed this forum isn't open just for domesticated farangs. Get off my back and ignore my posts.

Post by **lynxlynx** » December 22, 2007, 7:40 am

Maligator wrote:Is this to get a certain stone back ??

B careful my friend.

Hi Maligator,

yeap, that's the case. If I give her any advanced notice, she will try to weave her way out of it, or worse - try to re-establish something I am not interested in rebuilding. I just want the thing back.

I don't have any security concerns whatsoever (this was kind of misunderstood in my question). If I meet her there (where she keeps it), she will hand it over. I am pretty certain of that. She knows where I am coming from and what that means.

I know where she works, and if I get the confirmation she has it on her, then I will visit her at the place of her work and the whole thing will be settled right there, without the need for the village visit.

As far as I've been told by her uncle (farang as well), her parents are nice people, not too happy about their daughter's conduct ... So, my concern goes primarily to them. I don't want to cause her any trouble either. But she has to give it back! I am not going to negotiate or forget about this.

Thank you all for your non-judgmental advice.

Post by **Maligator** » December 22, 2007, 9:51 am

Does her uncle live close by?
I might wanna take him to sooth the family so to say...

I would try to save the family's face at all costs..but understand your wanting it back..
How 'bout just waiting and meeting her at work instead of the house or in her Ville.

Hummm...gotta think more on this one.

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