Are Thai women all the same
Same same..mine "grooms" me like a mother ling.
That dosen't or hasn't bothered me as of yet. What I still cannot get used to is that she follows me everywhere. If I walk into the other room, she is right behind me, pop in the shower..bingo, there she is.
I try to explain that sometimes I just need some time alone, she agrees...and then again follows me everywhere I go.
No, don't think they are same as at least what they call a woman in my country, but that's another thread all in it's own.
That dosen't or hasn't bothered me as of yet. What I still cannot get used to is that she follows me everywhere. If I walk into the other room, she is right behind me, pop in the shower..bingo, there she is.
I try to explain that sometimes I just need some time alone, she agrees...and then again follows me everywhere I go.
No, don't think they are same as at least what they call a woman in my country, but that's another thread all in it's own.
I'm mellowing!I would like to say I'm getting wiser,but that would be a bit muchlynxlynx wrote:BKKSTAN, well I did, didn't I? I apologized, offered a gesture, tuned down my tone ... but somebody just couldn't help walking away from the issue without making a threat between the lines ...BKKSTAN wrote:lynxlynx,since you state your not a troll and since you are a relatively new poster,Why don't you ''back off'' on these replies and put this thread to bed
Would you back off? It doesn't sound to me like you would when I am reading your other submissions. Surely not in your younger years
""I maintain my opinion from my original submission - the smashing majority of Thai females I came across (and no, they weren't bar girls) demonstrated an unbelievable lack of knowledge, curiosity or desire to bother their brains with nothing that went beyond the elementary or the very topical issues of their lives constrained by the Thai mini-universe. This is not a function of powerty, this is mainly a function of attitude.""
Lynxlynx - could this not be the secret of inner happiness? Why bother with anything else? Are not most of the issues on this forum are about being upset over thing outside of this limited outlook?
Lynxlynx - could this not be the secret of inner happiness? Why bother with anything else? Are not most of the issues on this forum are about being upset over thing outside of this limited outlook?
Gulfman - yes and no.gulfman wrote:Lynxlynx - could this not be the secret of inner happiness? Why bother with anything else? Are not most of the issues on this forum are about being upset over thing outside of this limited outlook?
I met my girlfriend in Australia where we both studied (me graduate, her undergraduate). Prior to that, she spent most of her teens in the USA, then stayed for a few years in Udon until she began her studies in Sydney. She was exposed to the "out-of-Thailand" world more than the average Thai girl. (Until today, I am still not sure whether that made her a better person or not.) In spite of this exposure, she was still distinctively Thai in her thinking, habits and behaviour.
I was totally infatuated with her. Bubbly, sweet, feminine - you know what I am talking about. As if everything suddenly got a different perspective - simple things became important and many issues that used to pre-occupy my mind became meaningless. It was a refreshing state of existence for about 6 months, but then I started to realize I was pretty much on my own with many of my thoughts and interests. I started missing way too many issues. Yes, I could always leave the house and meet with my friends and do all the things and talk about all the issues I wanted to. But this is not the kind of relationship I can sustain for a long period of time. I want to share my thoughts on literature, polictics, economics etc with my partner and I am looking for some interaction and some "enrichment" in this regard from the other side. I brought it up with her. I tried, in a very gentle way and with lots of encouragment, to arise her interest in these issues. And for a while it seemed that I was succeeding. She tried the best she could. But it just wasn't in her. (And the girls I mer afterwards were even worse.) I wouldn't have left her for this (I had to come back to Europe when my MBA course was over and she still had some years to go in her course). I did realize though that as much as I long for them, the odds that I would meet a Thai woman who would be fulfilling in this regard as well are pretty much against me. I am just not noticing this capacity or the desire in them.
I am curious how those of you with long-term relationships deal with this issue.
lynxlynx, you are not alone.
I have just given up trying to engage her in any kind of conversations of issues in which you speak.
I'm not sure if she understands what I'm trying to say on politcal issues or worldly issues. She is intelligent and a very fast learner, but I just don't think she is interested in anything except eating, following me around and what is going on in her small world in Bang Sue.
I now keep the conversations small without to much detail...that way I do not get frustrated and want to bang my head against the wall.
She smiles, nods her head, I have said what I want, she goes to the kitchen and I go back to my world.
I guess I'm getting older and uglyer and just happy I have a nice caring woman to look out for me.
Sometimes I think that it is I that is the problem, worrying to much 'bout everything. I sometimes wish I could go on a mental break for the rest of my life like her...it would be so much easier.
I do miss the stimulating conversations covering all subjects from aa to zz.
I have just given up trying to engage her in any kind of conversations of issues in which you speak.
I'm not sure if she understands what I'm trying to say on politcal issues or worldly issues. She is intelligent and a very fast learner, but I just don't think she is interested in anything except eating, following me around and what is going on in her small world in Bang Sue.
I now keep the conversations small without to much detail...that way I do not get frustrated and want to bang my head against the wall.
She smiles, nods her head, I have said what I want, she goes to the kitchen and I go back to my world.
I guess I'm getting older and uglyer and just happy I have a nice caring woman to look out for me.
Sometimes I think that it is I that is the problem, worrying to much 'bout everything. I sometimes wish I could go on a mental break for the rest of my life like her...it would be so much easier.
I do miss the stimulating conversations covering all subjects from aa to zz.
Maligator:
What is it with the "following around routine"? I experienced a similar behaviour with my ex. We lived (together with another girl from Singapore) in a shared accommodation provided by the Uni. Each one of us had his/her own room and there was a common living room and bathroom. I didn't notice it at first, but later on I realized that everytime I would move to another room, she would quietly sneak in after me and continued doing her own thing. Sometimes I was really thankful when our flatmate came back from school, so the girls could chat together or watch reality shows on TV. That was the only private time I could get at our place. As much as she loved to be in my room, I noticed her slight disapproval when I was in her room. As if mine was hers and hers was hers only The "never apart" routine got especially bothersome at night. She would refuse to leave my room and sleep in hers. I could live (sleep) with us jammed on my not-too-wide bad, but what I couldn't really handle was her heat. When she fell asleep, her body temperature increased by several degrees - and sleeping next to a "human radiator" during the Aussie summer wasn't anything nearly pleasant.
I was trying to figure out why they don't show the same interest in "wordly" issues (as you put it) as we do. I think it's partially a conflict avoidance issue (if you really want to gain an insight or opinion regarding some complex issues, you ought to be conflicting yourself in the process), it's not essential to their lives and as such deemed uncessary if not outright unwelcomed or ....
What is it with the "following around routine"? I experienced a similar behaviour with my ex. We lived (together with another girl from Singapore) in a shared accommodation provided by the Uni. Each one of us had his/her own room and there was a common living room and bathroom. I didn't notice it at first, but later on I realized that everytime I would move to another room, she would quietly sneak in after me and continued doing her own thing. Sometimes I was really thankful when our flatmate came back from school, so the girls could chat together or watch reality shows on TV. That was the only private time I could get at our place. As much as she loved to be in my room, I noticed her slight disapproval when I was in her room. As if mine was hers and hers was hers only The "never apart" routine got especially bothersome at night. She would refuse to leave my room and sleep in hers. I could live (sleep) with us jammed on my not-too-wide bad, but what I couldn't really handle was her heat. When she fell asleep, her body temperature increased by several degrees - and sleeping next to a "human radiator" during the Aussie summer wasn't anything nearly pleasant.
I was trying to figure out why they don't show the same interest in "wordly" issues (as you put it) as we do. I think it's partially a conflict avoidance issue (if you really want to gain an insight or opinion regarding some complex issues, you ought to be conflicting yourself in the process), it's not essential to their lives and as such deemed uncessary if not outright unwelcomed or ....
That is why you have the forumMaligator wrote:lynxlynx, you are not alone.
I have just given up trying to engage her in any kind of conversations of issues in which you speak.
I'm not sure if she understands what I'm trying to say on politcal issues or worldly issues. She is intelligent and a very fast learner, but I just don't think she is interested in anything except eating, following me around and what is going on in her small world in Bang Sue.
I now keep the conversations small without to much detail...that way I do not get frustrated and want to bang my head against the wall.
She smiles, nods her head, I have said what I want, she goes to the kitchen and I go back to my world.
I guess I'm getting older and uglyer and just happy I have a nice caring woman to look out for me.
Sometimes I think that it is I that is the problem, worrying to much 'bout everything. I sometimes wish I could go on a mental break for the rest of my life like her...it would be so much easier.
I do miss the stimulating conversations covering all subjects from aa to zz.
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And of course the bars where all the problems of the world are solved. I overheard a conversation a few days ago that had everything covered... Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan and even the Chinese were brought into it and it was sorted in about 22 minutes!
George W need not bring Olmert and Abbas to Annapolis next week. Take em to Mojo's for a few games of pool and a few beers preferably on a Saturday when George can play in the 9-ball and the customers at the bar will sort these 2 guys out and by the time George W is finished Olmert and Abbas will be dancing around the pool table singing my Yiddishe mama.
George W need not bring Olmert and Abbas to Annapolis next week. Take em to Mojo's for a few games of pool and a few beers preferably on a Saturday when George can play in the 9-ball and the customers at the bar will sort these 2 guys out and by the time George W is finished Olmert and Abbas will be dancing around the pool table singing my Yiddishe mama.
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That may work, so long as George brings someone who can count to 9, to tell him what the game isIrish Alan wrote:And of course the bars where all the problems of the world are solved. I overheard a conversation a few days ago that had everything covered... Iran, Iraq, Afghanistan and even the Chinese were brought into it and it was sorted in about 22 minutes!
George W need not bring Olmert and Abbas to Annapolis next week. Take em to Mojo's for a few games of pool and a few beers preferably on a Saturday when George can play in the 9-ball and the customers at the bar will sort these 2 guys out and by the time George W is finished Olmert and Abbas will be dancing around the pool table singing my Yiddishe mama.
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I am sure both of them, whatever your thoughts about them, have better taste than to be seen in the company of the "Shrub".Maligator wrote:Well, that leaves out that midget who wears clothes from the Salvation Army and talks in circles from Iran and that fat blow hard wanna- be Castro from "Venice-sway-la-la-la-la.
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I am sure both of them, whatever your thoughts about them, have better taste than to be seen in the company of the "Shrub".Maligator wrote:Well, that leaves out that midget who wears clothes from the Salvation Army and talks in circles from Iran and that fat blow hard wanna- be Castro from "Venice-sway-la-la-la-la.