To this day I do not infact find Thai women all that different once you are in a long term realtionship with one.
I would agree that once they find thier comfort zone they do in fact change a bit, some for the good, others not.
Stupid ya thier as stupid as they want you to think they are. Would I trust my wifes capabilities in the states not without teaching her how things work. Here if I need something accomplished it normally comes from her area of experience and I'm the one learning.
One thing in our case that I believe really puts a strain on the relationship is we are together all the time. There is no work break as you would have in the work worlds we came from.
Does she sometime treat me a like a child which is something I don't like, YES. But, everything ends up being translated through her so I can see how it might look like we don't have a clue. Good reason to learn Thai and give her a break once in a while.
My wife is my best friend, but in any real friendship I have ever had there are times where the two people don't agree, or things get confused. Even good friendships require perimiters to be honored. I don't see that realtionships are that much different. As an example my wifes tone of voice I find offensive sometimes. I don't think she really means that much when she speak in that manner. But it makes me tense with just the sound. If I call her on it she will settle down a bit. But if don't it will just continue.
Sometimes she likes to complain constantly why? she is bored. I have to sit her down from time to time and remind her she is Budhist. supposed to be accepting life as it comes. Then we go over a few things and in the end I ask where the problems are. Sometimes I don't have the patience and have to get out of dodge for a bit and let things settle down.
Well one thing for sure my wife is just a perfect as I am.
If yuou hook up with that little cuttie at the disco, you know the disco queen what do you expect you wanted a disco queen you got one. Is that really that much different when in your younger days when you hooked up with the disco queen in your home country. No sorry it doesn't matter if partying is all is on the mind then no they are not mature Thai or otherwise. Sometimes I think we have these wonderful dreams that are impossible to acccomplish. We want this cute little godess and want her to have the same depth of knowledge and maturity we do. Sorry doesn't work that way.
Do women change when they become mothers of course they as you should as well being a father. If her behavior becomes really radical she may very well have a medical problem. It happens and is worth a good check up to find out, many women get severly depressed after child birth.
If it is she doesn't have the time for you like she did, well guess what she doesn't have that time she had before, simple as that. Children require nuturing, that takes time and creates a brand new burden for the lady she has not had before. May take sometime for adjusting for both of you.
My suggestion take a look at yuorself if your perfect as a father, the the wife might have some catching up to do. If not maybe a little help would with the baby would give you and her a bit more of what you had before.
Children are a big deal in life and require a lot of effort. Having raised two families already not one that I would want to do agian. They bring great joy to they also bring other things that are not so much fun.
Anyway I wish you luck I'm sure things will work out for you. My guess is your just venting, better to do it here, then in her ear. I do exactly the same thing.
Once you figure this relationship thing out, write a book heck everyone else did
In Holland we call that kind of people: "a Johnny and an Anita".
