DOWRY

Post by **Nice_thai** » August 30, 2007, 6:15 pm

oh I see some one picked me off,I dont care,I just talking about some farang talk wrong meaning of Dowry, much or less is dowry and I didnt think my dowry is much and some lady got Dowry 5-7 mill .if you read newspaper lady-boy married with farang they get Dowry too.Think How about lady?In Thailand Son in law more important if he married with lady who is no brother and the Older Son in law look after people in family and sometime run business of family if they have business like father.This just some story about Married.

Post by **Nice_thai** » August 30, 2007, 6:51 pm

Anyway Pay Dowry as you can afford.If you hard ask your lady but i think she love you more than dowry much or less. Lucky all of farang married with thailady I'll stop to comment here.Sorry if my hard comment make someone feel bad.and someone here let me thinking what farang think and feel about Thailand and Thailady.hope everyone here happy in Thailand and find out good lady you 'll happy all of your life if you can find her.

Post by **pompui** » August 30, 2007, 7:08 pm

Nice_thai wrote:.if you read newspaper lady-boy married with farang they get Dowry too.Think How about lady?

So Dowry very low for ladyboy as no baby can do

Post by **Maligator** » August 30, 2007, 7:34 pm

Greetings..my first post. After reading on what several have paid or have been asked to pay on sin sod...my 2 cents.
I married a BKK woman, college degree, middle class family in Mar 05. I was asked for 66k in sinsod. Paid it. Then 88k in gold. Bought it. Paid for the wedding in Bangkok ( 50k ) and the honeymoon in Koh Chiang " family style " ( took the WHOLE family and flipped the bill ) Over all it set me back for a couple of years. Turned out she was still married to a guy in Texas, b/f giving money to her in Arizona and I think her "brother" was actually her hubby. I figured a couple only honeymoon in Singapore to which I had to fly out first and she would link up there..she never showed ( bought a first class ticket for her ) Never saw her again until she was arrested for DUi when she got back here and mentioned it my fellow brothers ( yep I'm a police officer, well just retired last month..) who had heard my tale of woe and knew all about her...karma
Anyway, was seeing another BKK girl, college degree, upper caste family ( grandfather was a thai diplomat ) Ma told me that if I wanted to marry her my sid sod was 1 bhat ( yes ONE ) Only problem is that ( and I wouldn't call it a problem ) she is Muslim and I would have to convert.

One that I'm seeing now, (I sound like either a man ***** or a real looser eh? )
going to marry her in a few weeks here in the good 'ol US and of A.. is 39 college degree, middle caste, parents only want her to get a green card, no bhat involved.
( not to worry, good fam have know them for years..just looking to get rid of older daughter..hehe )
So, it would seem that each will ask for different amout depending on which way the wind is blowing..

Nope, not a bar girl. Met her here in the good 'ol US and of A.
Dumped her like a hot rock

Post by **beer monkey** » August 30, 2007, 7:47 pm

good post maligator, whats DUi ?

Post by **banpaeng** » August 30, 2007, 7:51 pm

Good post Malegator. It also proves there are bad women at every level. Go get em and good luck in the future.

Post by **BobHelm** » August 30, 2007, 7:54 pm

Driving Under the Influence ...BM

Post by **beer monkey** » August 30, 2007, 7:59 pm

Arrr ok thanks bh.

Post by **Lek Car Rentals** » August 30, 2007, 9:27 pm

Nice_thai wrote:Anyway Pay Dowry as you can afford.If you hard ask your lady but i think she love you more than dowry much or less. Lucky all of farang married with thailady I'll stop to comment here.Sorry if my hard comment make someone feel bad.and someone here let me thinking what farang think and feel about Thailand and Thailady.hope everyone here happy in Thailand and find out good lady you 'll happy all of your life if you can find her.

I am happy with mine, 5 cows was not a bad deal. Wonder if the feeling is mutual...lol

Post by **beer monkey** » August 30, 2007, 10:15 pm

and don't forget the shed.

Post by **BKKSTAN** » August 31, 2007, 4:22 am

beer monkey wrote:and don't forget the shed.

Not if your living in it!

Post by **Nice_thai** » August 31, 2007, 5:56 pm

yes Lek, lucky you .yes next year you got more 5 and more 5 another year oh get rich soon lol

Post by **designer** » September 2, 2007, 3:31 pm

I am also going to get hitched in december,my girl friend is with me in south africa,No mention of SIN SOT she was married before but not registered at the ampor one child we will married in capetown at the dept home affairs and then do the village wedding later ,I dont know if Thai_lady is for real but but talking in millions of bt gives some of these girls the wrong idea because one idiot gets c---t struck and throws his cash around it makes some of us into cheap charly,Just remember you cannot buy respect pay to much and you are a buffelo ,By the way if irish alan is around ,I still cannot spell.

Post by moderator* » September 3, 2007, 11:56 pm

This thread has (finally) been cleaned up of most of the crap on it and anything not pertaining to the original topic of Dowry has been removed.

Please keep to the original topic henceforth.

Post by **dougness** » September 5, 2007, 9:27 am

Hello to all.I met a college educated women of thirty,once divorced in Thailand.The family is respected in her hometown.We had a cityhall marriage, after a short courtship.I asked about a dowry from the get go.She said about 200,000,then her mother said it wasn't important.Wanted to have a proper marriage,but her mother said no,just pay off her daughters current house in three years.Because I told the mother millions of women would be happy to have me as a husband for the amount of money I could send thier daughter.Have been sending 50,000baht a month on average,sometimes more for extras.I wonder,if I would have been better off to have paid a dowry in the begging?Now my wife doesn't want to come to my country and wants to open up business to subsidize the money I send her.Iam afraid my post be starting to stray offcourse.bye

Post by **arjay** » September 5, 2007, 9:41 am

Just keep in mind Doughnes if she had a job in Issan, she would be lucky to earn 5000 baht per month, let alone 50K!!

Now she wants to start a business - no doubt at your expense - to SUBSIDISE what you send her!! Sounds to me like you are being "milked"!

Post by **UdonExpat** » September 5, 2007, 9:43 am

Traditionally no dowry is expected if the woman has been previously married, has a child, or has worked as a prostitute (not a virgin, my interpretation).

If she doesn't fall into any of the above a dowry may be appropriate. Her social, educational, and economic status will have a bearing on the appropriate amount.

In exchange for the dowry the parents should offer land for the new couple to establish their household. Usually, this will be in the village where the girl was raised and the parents live. Traditionally, Thai husbands go to live where the wife's family lives.

Urbanization is changing all the traditional methods as urban families often have no land to offer the couple. So, dowries have become more fluid and less rigid in order to accomodate reality.

As my wife met all the above requirements I paid a dowry. It was returned to me later in the day. My wife's family are urban dwellers with no land to offer us. The dowry presentation satisfied the face side of the equation and the return of it satisfied the reality of the situation. Then we all had a big party.

Post by **RALPHCUSENS** » September 5, 2007, 10:43 am

Hi Dougness,

I really believe, that it is about time that you stood back, and took stock of your situation.

You state that you send your wife 50,000bht plus extras per month, and now she does not want to come to Canada, as she wants to start a business, to subsidize that which you are giving her!!!

To put things into perspective, The average wage as previously stated is around about 5,000 bht per month, so 50,000bht per month should be more than enough!

I live here in Udon with my Thai wife, we have a new car[lease purchase], we pay a morgage, pay school fees, and still live a far better standard of life than the majority of Thai families, ON LESS THAN 50,000bht PER MONTH!!!!!

I do not usually cast judgement on Thai ladies, but in this case, it is my opinnion, that your wife is thinking that the Money tree is still bearing fruit, so why should she alter things.

I THINK THAT YOUR ALARM CLOCK IS GOING OFF, WITH YOUR PERSONAL WAKE UP CALL!!, and that you should take notice of what your heart is telling you.

I hope that you can work things out,

all the best,

Ralph

Post by **dougness** » September 5, 2007, 10:44 am

I have been trying to keep an openmind to wifes exspenses.I have left out that I help out some her relatives children with thier schoolingand some medical bills.She is no "private dancer",but I have wondered about some exspenses.Iam sure there is a bit more to what my wife spends my money.But Iam not sure ,if she feels I would disaprove.Iam not a pensioner,so it hasn't been financially crippling.She fears coming to the west and would finance some the future business she would like to start.With the idea that I would be able to spend more time in Udon,if she made us some money.Ofcourse I have been the but of countless waterbuffalo jokes from some of my friends.

Post by **dougness** » September 5, 2007, 10:53 am

When you marry the woman,you marry the whole family.In the beggining I said I would help her family out in times of need.In her case,it has been a little trying.I can't reveil her familys complete situation,to protect thier privacy.Iam still very much in love with her and commited to my relationship.I like this forum,because it gives me different perspectives.I look forward to coming to a formites meeting,next trip out.