Sin Sodt issue

[nkstan]

Give me a break guys,

"Yes I wanted your opinions, thank you all and said to my good lady I would write here as she was well out of line and said I would send her the responses as she seems to think that most Thai men will pay that amount and quite right"

Did you get this fellow forumites. This guy is a troll of sorts! He's going to share our responses with his Thai GF to prove a point. He's a bit of a schemer himself...isn't he. Maybe they're well suited for each other. It's a good thing that all of us who gave advice don't have our true identities exposed. If so, perhaps we could expect a visit from the TGF's family along with a good cane whipping. It wouldn't be the first time this sort of thing has happened. Shame on you Simon-Wat for using us! There were better alternatives if you want to get to the bottom of the matter. You could start by using a little common sense!

I have neve heard of such a thing happening from posts on a forum!I guess anything is possible,but an open forum is fair game for anybody that logs on!
I think our OP probably has only his interests at heart and is playing the game,but it also is a good possibility that he is connected with other gals online and only believes that he might have a second and good alternative.Long distance players have a little different go at relationships ,if on the internet.But I also think that the net gives people a chance for screening possibilities if they are patient and diligent.Alot of the person to person meets lack the patience and time to get to know more about each other!

[Simon-Wat]

Sorry no offence meant and after posting here and seeing what has been said, i would not show her, no point.
They have said what they want.
As to the other lady i chatted to, same as she was doing. I don't feel bad about that as once bitten twice shy.
They all seem to have the same tricks, and some Thai guy lurking in the background, well the ones i have met.
Thanks again, this was asked is sincerity, and posts well appreciated.
The idea of of meeting her and telling her, was a nice though at the time, i have no time for that and need to move on.
As said if she loved me she would have done something.

[jai yen yen]

Sorry no offence meant and after posting here and seeing what has been said, i would not show her, no point.
They have said what they want.
As to the other lady i chatted to, same as she was doing. I don't feel bad about that as once bitten twice shy.
They all seem to have the same tricks, and some Thai guy lurking in the background, well the ones i have met.
Thanks again, this was asked is sincerity, and posts well appreciated.
The idea of of meeting her and telling her, was a nice though at the time, i have no time for that and need to move on.
As said if she loved me she would have done something.

One other thing to remember, There are good ladies out there. Many of us have found wonderful partners, just be careful and patient. If it starts to feel wrong just move on.

[Simon-Wat]

well simon indeed one idiot more,( 2 ,friend your GF) not to feel sorry sorry about when the thai trap closes completely and he will be left at the street side ( or maybe chained naked in a thai jail...) after all good advice,now we know that love is not only blind but also deaf...., as the remark of making children, i feel sorry of all old farang( 60+) whom are so proud to have a baby , with their baby wife, ( only securing the income of the wife) , but i feel sorry more for the child because most of them have to grow up without the presence of their father.....,as at this age we never now when they cut your electric upstairs ........
anyway as everybody makes their own future and learn from their mistakes.....
i wish you a good wedding ............

Hmmm can you guarantee you will be hear tomorrow?
My mother bless her was married to and old chap at 80 and lived with him some years, travelling to SA and back like a spring chicken till she dies at 89.
Who can say what tomorrow brings, i am as good to see the the child if we did have one well into university years as anyone else

[Simon-Wat]

one thing that tells me its all about money is the age difference,put yourself in the thai girls shoes would you marry some 60 year old thai women for love if you were a 28 year old guy no chance i feel sick just thinking about it,unless she was absolutely filthy rich then i might give it a go,on second thoughts she can have her money.

Good point mate and what i have been thinking too, but all situations are not the same.
You know 50 years ago you would be saying that if a whit married a black, it made you feel sick. Ageist, sorry not my port of call a social fad years ago it was accepted.
BS

[Simon-Wat]

The thing is some farang have paid a lot of money for sin sot and so some Thai girls and family expect the same. I told my gf I would not go down that road and she could find someone else if she wanted. I did promise to take care of her and provide a good life for us and her son from a Thai bf from before. I see that as a better way to spend my money and I would laugh at a family who asked so much. I am not Thai and don't feel obligated to Thai customs real or not. As a Farang here we have no rights and are not counted as citizens so it works both ways. Do what you want but remember paying a lot of money to marry someone does not guarantee anything other than you will be out more cash if things don't work out. I also think that if she really cared about you she would stay with you even if you did not pay the sin sot. Good Luck.

Thank you for you kind response, yes that is what is happening here some Austrian has paid her cousin 1 mill and all of it no returns. My lady has said she does not want a Hotel reception to save money. That to her is a huge loss of face as all her friends have had large wedding receptions. She said she wants no gold because her papa wants so much for the sin sod.
Bloody confusing. I think she does love me oh but that thai trap.
I am not one to pay sin sod at all don't believe in it. help the family if needed ok.
So i wrote her a letter telling her that she is free to find another as i would not be able to support her if i had to meet the demands. I was not rich and could not support her family if married.
She wrote back to tell me she did not want another, and that she would marry me in BKK, at the Amphur Office.

[trubrit]

Excellent advise JYY.

[Simon-Wat]

i still think hes a TROLL

=D> =D> correct .

you have been watching , A JAKANORY PRODUCTION
[ courtessy of a phantom newbie ]
a nice xmas present to you all , LOL xxxx

at least, it got some of the old guys , out of their zimmers ,and on the board .

mash, you are such a romantic

Have you nothing better to do

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