speak out, just speak out! God.

[quinault11]

Why not just speak out? WHY? I can't endure it any more.

When I am sad, I also want to find a hug for resting my tried heart. My girlfriend will never understand it. She just keeps silence all the way. If I saying something, then we have a bad arguement for 100%.

After the arguement, she will never say any words just let the problem rise bigger. Or acting like it didn't occur.

Gosh. I'm human being. And in this country, my girlfriend is the only person I know I can talk. I just want to speak out what jams in my heart. Is it wrong? Very wrong?

Now, I gonna cry out. It's enough. Really. I'm getting booming. I maybe should stop this relationship. Since with her, what I lost is too much. I'm tried.

[beer monkey]

So you get a little problem with your girl...and she closed up and don't speak for a few days , face like a wet weekend..? sounds familiar. ...make the most of the peace and quite.

[semperfiguy]

Quinault11, you never said what caused the argument or who started it first. Regardless, let me give you a few verses from The Word of God (you must know of HIM since you used HIS name in the title of your thread) that I have referred to over the years to settle arguments with my wife...and to be reconciled to her without further squabbling over the matter. It will work every time if done in the right spirit and if you follow the process properly.

Matthew 5:22-24 (individual James Version)

22But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

23Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee;

24Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

So here's the way this works: Regardless of whether you are at fault or she is at fault for starting the argument, you are the spiritual head of your household, and it is your responsibility to keep peace in the house. YOU must take the initiative to go to her and apologize and ask forgiveness...even if it was her fault! The object here is not to place blame and point fingers, but to be reconciled at any cost.

Ephesians 4
26Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:

27Neither give place to the devil.

Always settle your arguments before the sun goes down. If the dispute goes past one day, then a root of bitterness will begin to grow in the heart, unforgiveness takes hold and other people will begin to be contaminated by that bitterness. Settle the matter quickly and don't give evil an opportunity to raise it's ugly head.

Swallow your pride Quinault11, and do the right thing. You might just discover that the real problem is not with your girlfriend...but with you!

Matthew 7:5

You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

Hope this helps. God Bless!

[jackspratt]

sfg, it pays to check the date of the OP when resurrecting old threads.

[semperfiguy]

sfg, it pays to check the date of the OP when resurrecting old threads.

You're right Jackspratt...I totally missed that one. Sorry!

[Zidane]

sfg, it pays to check the date of the OP when resurrecting old threads.

You're right Jackspratt...I totally missed that one. Sorry!

Your forgiven,my son !

[Jello]

sfg, it pays to check the date of the OP when resurrecting old threads.

You're right Jackspratt...I totally missed that one. Sorry!

Also the OP (quinault11) is a lesbian. Do you think the same biblical quotes apply, or would you have quoted a different passage?

[rjj04]

"If a man lies with a male as with a women, both of them shall be put to death for their abominable deed; they have forfeited their lives." (Leviticus 20:13 NAB)
I assume the punishment for a lesser being - a lowly woman would be quite harsh.