Your advice would be greatly appreciated

Post by **Boatman37210** » March 30, 2006, 1:51 am

Hey guys. I

Post by TC » March 30, 2006, 3:07 am

To be honest at 57 being married 21 years and now going down hazy memory lane reminiscing shagging a few ***** in the sixties. <comment removed!> Admin (against forum rules)

til death do us part not to mention a few moral responsibilities.

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well mods? delete me if you will!

regards

TC

Post by **Stevo** » March 30, 2006, 3:22 am

Hi Boatman37210,
Welcome to the forum.

Boatman37210 wrote: I have no intentions of going to Thailand.

as a responce to the above, I would advise a change of plan.

Post by **Boatman37210** » March 30, 2006, 4:05 am

I don't think I mentioned in my post why the marriage is ending. Reason being I did not think it was relevant. Now I'm a *astard and a moral coward. The marriage did not end because of me going down memory lane. She and I have been separated for a year and half. Memory lane just came up in the last week.

Unless you know the whys and hows, I don't understand how you can make such a statement. Any sane man would have left her 10 years ago. I was a fool for staying as long as I did.

Now, could we please get back on track. Again, any opinions are greatly appreciated.

Post by **beer monkey** » March 30, 2006, 4:54 am

are you sure you want to get married to a" beautiful thai lady" through the internet,whats wrong with an average one? whom for what ever reason you don't intend to travel to thailand,to meet?? do you really think it will all come to you on your doorstep.and to think it is ok to think that you would pay someone to check her out, if so you must be a fool like you admit.(any sane person would have left 10years ago) You have alot to learn about thai women and women in general

(but you will never know it all along with the rest of us)
And to admit you also have no faith and you are doing this because you don't have any thing else to do and think you are not the best looking apple in your barrel, pull yourself together man.
If you are serious about this you must travel to thailand and see things for yourself, keep your options open she ain't the only train on the track.

IMO

and welcome by the way.

Post by **Stevo** » March 30, 2006, 4:59 am

Spot on BM...

Post by **beer monkey** » March 30, 2006, 5:08 am

oh and to begin to wonder if is" worth it" so early on well what can you say.

Post by **beer monkey** » March 30, 2006, 5:09 am

Stevo wrote:Spot on BM...

why thanks.

Post by TC » March 30, 2006, 5:22 am

Boatman

I dont suppose your American by any chance?

TC

Post by TC » March 30, 2006, 5:31 am

Boatman

I would like to see your wifes repost on the Forum

TC

Post by **Boatman37210** » March 30, 2006, 6:09 am

I am an American. That is why I said I was located in the states. I should have said United States. Apparently you have a problem with Americans or you would not assume that anything you consider offensive has to be coming from an American.

Again, TC, I don't understand your interest in my failed marriage. You don't know the reasons, so I don't understand the conclusion you've reached. There are people who's marriages end every day, but for some reason you have determine I'm a *bastard without knowing anything about the relationship. Your are right in that my wife and I differ on the reasons, but how did you reach the conclusion that I'm the *bastard and she is the saint?

The only thing I can figure out is that my possible plan to pursue a Thai relationship is either so offensive that anyone with such a plan has to be a real *bastard to be married to. Is that it? That has to be it because you have nothing else to go on.

I've stated my position on this best I can. I'm done on the marriage issue, so TC go ahead on.

Post by **johninperth** » March 30, 2006, 8:23 am

Boatman.....wow I just cannot contain my silence !!
Even as a reader not much of a contributor... this discussion really compels me to add my 2 cents worth..........

Firstly not being able to speak for TC, but even Stevie Wonder can see that any aspersions about you are not aimed at your failing marriage...but because of your "plan".

Boatman unless you are willing and able to to make a journey to LOS to find and get to know a lady personally I really feel that you and your "plan" will fail miserably.

As you say perhaps it might be easier to find some one closer to home .... ( and less beautiful )

IMO I suggest that you read more here before you "plan" anything ....John

Post by **Paul** » March 30, 2006, 8:39 am

Firstly TC:

Your comments are way below the mark whatever your personal feeling is - I dont think there is any need to insult someone who is asking for help/advice

Boatman :

I can see where you are coming from and whilst your idea appears to be a last ditch attempt at finding some happines in your life - Dragging up memories from the past and hoping it will be the same is a little 'hopeful' to say the least, especially as you have no intention of coming here.

If you were to advertise your intentions on the internet site - you would have no end of willing volunteers who were looking for a nice few weeks holiday in USA. Do what most people do. Come here and see people in their natural enviroment and get to know someone personally, face to face.

Do you honestly expect to have a lasting relationship with someone you have never met personally?

You are correct in that many of the pictures placed on the internet dating sites are not the real person. I should know - I used to run an internet shop and
helped people put their adverts on the sites. I sometimes looked at their photos and hardly recognised them. There is a thriving business here where you can have an 'instant makeover' and then get your picture taken - and then if you want it , it can be edited with photoshop to remove all blemishes etc. You can see this every day in the complex at the photo studios.

By all means make a few contacts but you simply have to come here also in my opinion.

Good Luck

Post by **Boatman37210** » March 30, 2006, 9:39 am

The plan is scrapped. Thanks for the input. I wish you guys would tell it like it is rather than beating around the bush.

Post by aj » March 30, 2006, 10:10 am

BoaTMAN ,your not the first person to come up with the plan ,,I currently have an english friend tryig to do the exact same thing as you have planned. Its been a pointless excercise telling him that it wont work and so far he has spent over 2000 uk pounds trying to get a certain lady I know in Thailand to the uk. The fact is she will never get a visa but try telling either of them that .
I have to agree with Paul in thinking that you have been answered both rudely and badly ,whether paople agree with you or not there is no need to personally attack you in the way they have done.

I for one would not agre with your plan ,however maybe a few questions are not amiss . why wouold you not dream of coming to Thailand ? Is love all about beauty ? I have never been with a thai ***** ,but my guess is that thyey are very different to a thai Lady so wh at do you want in your life a ***** or a lady?

On a personaal note the ASIAN LADYS HAVE ALWAYS APPEALED TO ME, i WAS DIVORCED FOR THE 3RD TIME some five years ago . I thought of bringing a thai girl to the uk , but decided against it v. I think the change is to great for them .\and that a succsefull relatioinship is less likely to come about . so next logical thing was to look at coming to thailand after four years in the planning I arrived here last October, now have g/f soon to be wife and a new life . So my well meant suggestion to you is that you look at a new life rather than just filling in some holes in the one you have got. Good luck

Post by **lee** » March 30, 2006, 11:12 am

Welcome to the forum Boatman,

IMHO I would plan a trip to Thailand, get to know the country, people and way of life. Then as Paul says you can get to know people on a personal level rather than via the internet and a couple of emails.

The plan is scrapped. Thanks for the input. I wish you guys would tell it like it is rather than beating around the bush.

I guess that the plan wasn't too serious if it only took 5 people to change your mind.

Anyway, good luck with your endeavors.

Post by **beer monkey** » March 30, 2006, 2:44 pm

after a few replies i see you are scrapping your plan . why don't you just change it a bit. Have a holiday to thailand, if you enjoyed it in the 60's i am sure you will enjoy it now.
If not stick with the forum and you may change your mind later. i think the replies you have had have said it all.

as lee said if after a few replies you have changed your mind it was'nt much of a plan any way, be positive. Visit Thailand. Its the kind of country you can travel to alone no problems.

Treat yourself.

Post by **hellofriends** » March 30, 2006, 3:59 pm

hello boatman , i am also new to this forum and hope to make good friends on it . i would also like to meet a lady and hopefully have a long happy life together but i really think you should consider visiting thailand .
40 years is a long time and places and countries can change a lot in forty years .
i also think that planning your future from advice on a forum and/ or comments made on a forum is not good .
give yourself time to get over your divorce , it may take a while and then when youre sure you want to settle down again , then take a holiday to thailand or whichever country you choose .
you may meet your future partner , then again you may not .
good luck

Post by **Roadman** » March 30, 2006, 4:37 pm

Hi Boatman

I agree with the Beer Monkey totally.
Throw that plan out...it stinks in all ways.
The lady you are corresponding to may be the real McCoy. I and many other falangs have met there partners on the internet. But putting things together without meeting, or getting some one to check them out is not the way to go.
Go to Thailand and check the place, culture, food and the ladies out. Either way with success or not on your trip you will then know for sure if a thai girl as a partner is for you. If a thai girl is then do what a lot of us do and set the whole process down for a few years.

And don't panic about the looks. I have seen some of the most ugliest falangs

around with some of the most honey pie wee thai peachs.
I think most thai girls have things like security and being able to get a partner as priorities above looks. Do you know there is something like a couple of hundred thousand more thai women than thai men. Don't know where all the thai men disappear to but that is sure one massive big amount of unhappy woman.

Post by **shortimer** » March 30, 2006, 4:48 pm

Boatman, first I also am a american and I am 1 year older than you so I know right about where you are at in life so I don't feel I am out of touch with what you may or may not be feeling. Almost all of the posters to your thread have given you pretty decent advice here. The most relevant suggestion here though would be to take a couple of weeks vacation, get on a plane and come back to the Land of Smiles, when you get here though if you are serious about making a lasting relationship you might want to stay out of the bars of your youth unless your looking to relive you r&r memories. The ladies you will meet in the bars will, for the most part not be the type of lasting partner you would want for a long term relationship.

At the very worst you would have a interesting vacation but more so I think you would be able get a much clearer picture of where you want to go with regards to a relationship with a Thai lady. Whatever you decide I wish you the best of luck.

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Got it guys.

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