My wife's father like boxing - so boxing me was no problem.

[beer monkey]

If thats what you think will happen(and its not impossible by no means)....all the more reason to get out with your boy as soon as you got things together.


has she comeback home yet from earlier..?

[farangano]

"has she comeback home yet from earlier..?"

No, not a word. No sign. She is probably back at her mother/fathers house and my son as well. And there I can't go no more in this life. If I show up there I will be knocked down by my wife's father most likely.

Just wait now - there is nothing I can do and according to the embassy I called today there is not much to do and they have other cases like this so I am not alone. There is one open possibility via some offices the embassy told me about and I have set this in motion but it will take a long time most likely unless the local police are understanding and willing to participate in solving the matter regarding my son and his custody.

But to think that I - my sons father - am just left in the dark like this. Out in the ocean and almost nothing to do - all because I said stop to continue paying my wife many many money. More money and I think I could solve the matter in minutes.

But along the way I have been hood-winded and my head turned around so many times that up and down are no longer the same to me.

If my son is gone forever from me I shall most like set up a website with pictures etc. telling all about this story for the whole world to know.

My wife has the keys to the house I rent now. So she can get in lawfully anytime so tomorrow I shall have to find a location out of the house where I can hide my computer and all important papers etc..

A very very sad story indeed - for my son. I am only human so yes, very sad for me as well.

[beer monkey]

So she has not been gone a day yet then..? she will return soon enough after a few days, so what will it take to get her back home,..? start paying out some baht i would think, you need to get it back on track...then you can do 'your thing'.

[lighspur1]

If this is true you have my smpathy. Now grow a pair and do something, get out.
However I too am thinking this is a troll, seems to lay it on thicker with every post doesn't he.
The way it is written it seems like it might be Thai that is doing the posting.

[beer monkey]

If not genuine, i am reckoning there is someone out there going through something similar.

[lighspur1]

If not genuine, i am reckoning there is someone out there going through something similar.

If true, I feel for the guy, would even help him if I could.
No doubt that it happens in every country, probably every city. Just the more I read of this particular thread a doubt sets in that this is legit.

[farangano]

It is not a troll and I am a true western man from Europe now staying in Udon Thani. I can say this much that I am a scandinavian in my 40ties. I have last night emailed the embassy for my country and other official offices in my own country and yesterday I phoned to get some information. Thailand has not signed the Hague Agreement about child abduction etc. so I have via the embassy been given a contact to a lawyer and there is one open solution should my wife have taken my son away for good.

If my wife turns up soon then she is influences by the patriacal way of living and she "must" come back home. But since I have said no more BATH then why would she come home - nothing to get out of me now and no more spreading her legs like she did mostly looking like a cheap ***** I am sad to say - she is Isan and not the most pretty one. I am ok and so so looking - not super model - but average also taken into account what I have been through the past 2 years; it shows in my face now the stress and burden of this womans scheaming all the time.

If sooner or later it is all over I shall reveal my identity and display images and the story publicly on the Internet - especially if my son is gone forever from my life.

So please believe and even if my story seams like taken out of the blue then I can guarantee I am speaking from my heart truthfully.

Kindest

[beer monkey]

she will return soon enough after a few days, so what will it take to get her back home,..? start paying out some baht i would think, you need to get it back on track...then you can do 'your thing'.
Good Luck with it.

[wazza]

I just woke up

Oh yeah, change the locks, thats simple !! Rent an apartment in Udon city, place all ur valuables in there, inc a grab bag for the airport.

back to sleep zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[beer monkey]

Is she home yet...?

[Aardvark]

Maybe he did a runner already ?

[mortiboy]

Maybe we'll never know.Hopefully we might hear a later date.
Would be nice see a happy ending

[arjay]

I'm sure there's a rickety bridge somewhere in this story!

[BKKSTAN]

He probably is back in the bag and doesn't want to tell us!

[shrink]

Other than being boxed by your father in law, your story is a common one that I have heard over and over in my stays in Thailand - and to some extend have experienced myself. If you are serious and literal about her father boxing you, I am a little contradicted myself on how to respond. I myself would give him a lesson in the woodshed, however, I am also aware that he may return with friends in tow to re-claim in inflated image. These are my thoughts:
1. Thais/Lao who have never been out of Thailand have no idea of budget, fiancial planning, or prudence regarding money. If they have it they will spend all of it
2. Don't trust your wife with large amounts of money - I know it is hard to accept that you may never be able to trust her in this way as it is foreign to Europeans and American who think of their wifes as trustworthy and working on the behalf of the relationship - not so with Thais - the money will disappear and end up in the hands of her family. If you face that you will never be able to trust her in this way then stay in the relationship. If you cannot - get out of it as it will gnaw at you.
3. Dole the money out in increments as needed - don't leave her with lump sums
4. Accept the fact that you are the wellspring of the money and that she and her family are dependant on it. It is a something that many men don't like to wear or assert but it is a fact. You need to be clear in your deeds that you will not accept certains behaviors like you have mentioned or the money stops. Thai women will try to control you and the money if allowed and you have a fight on your hands to reclaim what is rightfully yours.
5. Your wife will probably not pay a whole lot of attention to your rantings and ravings about money. She will take council in her parents. You might get lucky and find one who understands that Thais have no idea how to manage their money and need to learn western ways - if you are lucky
6. Marriage in Thailand is based on convenience and not love as you know it. Oh the word love is used often but it is hollow term often. Westerners are not seen opportunistically and selfishly in terms of their relationships. You need to design your program so you are in control as you will be more wise and prudent - but prepare to defend you territory and walk out if it gets too bad. Sometimes you have to establish your limits in primitive ways a words to the Thai don't mean a thing.
7. Rural Thais have little concept of future and live for today, admirable in some ways, but a nightmare for someone who has to pay the bills. Remember - they don't think like you and future and budget are meaningless terms for them.
Mose of what I have said her applies to the rural thais with little education and exposure to western ways. Of course there are wonderful exceptions to this that make one validated when you are lucky enough to meet them. Good luck

[Aardvark]

Welcome to the Forum Shrink A good right up and I agree with much that you have said. However, there are some men who will never learn and will continue to get burnt time and time again. Stay on this Forum for a while and you will see what I mean

[MAC22]

I'm six months ahead of you. Everything you have said has all ready happen to me and many others I am sure. It's all about her family. Her soul is devoted to them. Yes I still have to play the game, too. Just close the book and the bank.

[westerby]

Don't trust your wife with large amounts of money - I know it is hard to accept that you may never be able to trust her in this way as it is foreign to Europeans and American who think of their wifes as trustworthy and working on the behalf of the relationship - not so with Thais - the money will disappear and end up in the hands of her family. If you face that you will never be able to trust her in this way then stay in the relationship. If you cannot - get out of it as it will gnaw at you.

My wife is Thai and I trust her with large amounts of money.

Accept the fact that you are the wellspring of the money and that she and her family are dependant on it. It is a something that many men don't like to wear or assert but it is a fact. You need to be clear in your deeds that you will not accept certains behaviors like you have mentioned or the money stops. Thai women will try to control you and the money if allowed and you have a fight on your hands to reclaim what is rightfully yours.

I'm not the wellspring of money in our relationship. She earns her own money and sends a bit home, this is not uncommon with Thai girls in the UK.

You might get lucky and find one who understands that Thais have no idea how to manage their money and need to learn western ways - if you are lucky

There are plenty of Thai girls back in UK that understand how to budget, it's not only a western skill you know.

Marriage in Thailand is based on convenience and not love as you know it. Oh the word love is used often but it is hollow term often. Westerners are not seen opportunistically and selfishly in terms of their relationships. You need to design your program so you are in control as you will be more wise and prudent - but prepare to defend you territory and walk out if it gets too bad. Sometimes you have to establish your limits in primitive ways a words to the Thai don't mean a thing.

So a Thai woman can't love a Farang man and I have to be in control or I'm done for? Understood - I'll give her a beating when she gets in.

Mose of what I have said her applies to the rural thais with little education and exposure to western ways. Of course there are wonderful exceptions to this that make one validated when you are lucky enough to meet them. Good luck

Most of what you've said sounds like a load of patronising cr@p. I think you've been involved with the wrong kind of lady. You need to do some remedial at the WBU.

[beer monkey]

And i would like to add that I am velly disappointed in farangano for not getting back to us....

Maybe his Mrs has cleaned him out inc his Comp.

[westerby]

And i would like to add that I am velly disappointed in farangano for not getting back to us....

Maybe his Mrs has cleaned him out inc his Comp.

Do you think it could've just been jive ass honky ----? Did any of the Night Market Mafia see him after he promised to pop over? He could've been one of those twisted Trolls that everyone speaks of.