can real love be found on dating sites and in whorehouses?

[LoongLee]

Bjoehoe,,,, maybe that's why participation in this or any other thread is purely voluntary,,,,,, why would you possibly care what others are posting? Go start your own thread and read or spout to your hearts content. geeeez,,, get a life.

[beer monkey]

And what is the point of this tread?



If I was a MOD, I would lock this tread. Now.

Hi bjoehoe...

Its just a tread man, don't be so uptight, relax be cool....take part don't take part read or don't read...up to chew..there are other people on here that want to post something let them all have a fair crack of the whip.
And try not to mention the word 'Lock' it sends a shiver down my spine...

Thanks bm

[Dagnabbit]

And what is the point of this tread?



If I was a MOD, I would lock this tread. Now.

And try not to mention the word 'Lock' it sends a shiver down my spine...

Thanks bm

Why's that? Some time spent behind bars maybe? :-" S'ok old man, you've paid your debt.

Maybe some day we can trade raisin jack recipes....

[beer monkey]

Mmmm don't know what a Raisin Jack Recipe is, but i hazard a guess its got Raisins in it .....and mainly sat sitting in-front of bars propping them up, leaning on them(although not so much now) and not behind them.

Cheers bm.

best get back to Ho-Houses and T'internet Dating and L ve...

[Fawn]

If I was a MOD, I would lock this tread. Now.

I think I know where this new boy is coming from. This thread is a wee bit self indulgent, n'est-ce pas?

And we've been around this buoy before, many times, in fact, so much I'm starting to get dizzy.

A bit of navel gazing going on here, readers.

[beer monkey]

Very Nautical Fawn, but sure some members have things to add, this tread should not be sunk yet.

Cheers all bm.

[Fawn]

It's all very well working to keep this thing afloat but the teddies will go flying out of the cot when Gooner gets another broadside and someone takes the wind out of his sails.

Why shouldn't love be found on dating sites? Love doesn't just belong to those people that meet by chance.

[beer monkey]

Ok all you loved up readers...(and the non-loved up ones..whom are still looking, and will get there in the end, yes you will)

Can you not meet by chance on a dating site..?..I am like thinking, yeah you can.i mean like clicking on the wrong link oar something and that link leads you to your true love and happiness.
Yes that must have happened, or someone searching out something else then clicking on a dating site then accidentally finding the 'girl'..

[saint]

if the chances of meeting someone on a dating site is so slight , why are they so popular ? theres gotta be thousands of them out there . i would think you stand a far better chance of meeting someone compatable on a dating sight , that you can communicate with over a period of time before actually meeting , than you would in a bar anywhere in the world meeting face to face , with your beer goggles on !!!!! many women i know in the U K , use dating sites to find a partner , are they sad . no . they feel its less aggrovation trolling the internet , than trolling the bar scene , and having some pissed up letch trying to get in thier knickers after ten minutes . i also tend to agree with L A , we all , and i mean all prostitute ourselves most of the time , and when it comes to looking for love we most certainly all prostitute ourselves . we try to sell the prostective candidate what we have to offer !!!!! to be honest i get sick to death of people classing girls working the bars in thailand as out and out hookers , many are there through circumstances beyond thier control , have very little other means of doing the right thing for thier families and children in a lot of cases , and yes many are there to find mr right , and drag themselves out of poverty . to me that does not make them bad people !!!!! how anyone can judge them , without ever being anywhere near to thier situation is beyond me .

[RALPHCUSENS]

if the chances of meeting someone on a dating site is so slight , why are they so popular ? theres gotta be thousands of them out there . i would think you stand a far better chance of meeting someone compatable on a dating sight , that you can communicate with over a period of time before actually meeting , than you would in a bar anywhere in the world meeting face to face , with your beer goggles on !!!!! many women i know in the U K , use dating sites to find a partner , are they sad . no . they feel its less aggrovation trolling the internet , than trolling the bar scene , and having some pissed up letch trying to get in thier knickers after ten minutes . i also tend to agree with L A , we all , and i mean all prostitute ourselves most of the time , and when it comes to looking for love we most certainly all prostitute ourselves . we try to sell the prostective candidate what we have to offer !!!!! to be honest i get sick to death of people classing girls working the bars in thailand as out and out hookers , many are there through circumstances beyond thier control , have very little other means of doing the right thing for thier families and children in a lot of cases , and yes many are there to find mr right , and drag themselves out of poverty . to me that does not make them bad people !!!!! how anyone can judge them , without ever being anywhere near to thier situation is beyond me .

You old romantic,

Agre 100% =D> =D> =D> =D> =D> =D> =D> =D> =D>

[rick]

Wonder why the mention of whorehouse means this thread gets 10x the interest? What minds us men have. Well, my 2 baht. Never been in a whorehouse as such, never will. But would not expect to find real love there. Bars? have been a few times, met a few nice working girls, never a real bad one, but never really looked for love either; but i think it is possible - some have done it; one girl i know is honest and if i was not in relationship now might have considered.

Internet dating. Not really tried it outside Asia. in Uk, never really seen any advert which inspired me much, few hesitant queries never got a reply. Have used Date in Asia a bit, because i am a cheap charlie and its free. After filtering out all the filipinos and chinese (90% of contacts), a fair bit of homework to help you spot the more genuine ones, managed to find some interesting woman a couple of times. Just talk for a bit by email, MSN if you want, should end up with some reasonable prospects. Have met a few, only one wanted P4P, others never asked for anything except friendship/see what develops; found one very good friend that way. So certainly DIA has some honest women on it.

But, as has been said, love often comes by accidental meeting, as in my case. It may be hard work building that relationship, but also worth it.

Whatever route you choose, use the head on top, not between the legs! Research, time, caution. Understand the cultural divide, if possible. Love can come, but it has many prices. but if you look in a whorehouse, your nuts!

[BobHelm]

Well you didn't like my last reply goonersh - although you asked for an opinion & got one. Just because it does not happen to coincide with your thoughts makes it neither wrong, nor a dig.
I guess you will like this one even less...

You said...

I carry bricks with the end goal of being a site manager... im still a brikkie hey?

Yes & a percentage will be happy carrying bricks & never want to do anything else.
A percentage will see it as an opportunity for development.
A percentage will actually become trainee site managers.
A percentage will become successful site managers.

However, to look at it another way - all site managers have carried bricks at some time.....

[BKKSTAN]

I think you might be pressing the love angle to much.The facts are that anyone from any background can,have and will probably experience what they feel real love is,at some point and time.

Of course it is accepted that those looking for mates to love and respect have a very small amount of qualified applicants through these venues.

I am sure there are many young lasses in Thailand that are sincere in there desire to find a falang mate on the internet,but trying to qualify them ,check them out and spend enopugh time with them to find a ''qualified'' one is very difficult.

But why press the point,I would think that there has been enough written about the topic for the answers to be fairly obvious!

[goonersh]

Well you didn't like my last reply goonersh - although you asked for an opinion & got one. Just because it does not happen to coincide with your thoughts makes it neither wrong, nor a dig.
I guess you will like this one even less...

You said...

I carry bricks with the end goal of being a site manager... im still a brikkie hey?

Yes & a percentage will be happy carrying bricks & never want to do anything else.
A percentage will see it as an opportunity for development.
A percentage will actually become trainee site managers.
A percentage will become successful site managers.

However, to look at it another way - all site managers have carried bricks at some time.....

Bob, If you read my reply to you i actually agreed with you, just not your obvious dig at me... which there was was there not??? I have seen you be hardon others in another thread for not following procedure... yet you came in and made a couple of little comments directed at me... i see that as a little one sided to be honest, but i can live with it

and i agree with you above too... but a brikkie is a brikkie... when he is carrying the bricks and when he becomes site manager, he will still say "i was a brikkie".. same with people who sleep with people for money.... you can call them "sweet straberry shortcakes" if you like, but the defined word for them in the english language is prostitute.... WHATEVER their goals and dreams
ta

[BobHelm]

You still say I am having a dig at you, but do not point out what that "dig" was therefore it is very difficult for me to defend myself - except to say it was not the case....
I will ask you only one question about your definition of "Prostitute" above - but I suggest that you think long & hard about it before you reply...
How many times does a woman have to sleep with a man for money to become (& so, to be always referred to as "A former prostitute") once, twice, many?????

[Roy]

So searching for my true love via www.bricklayingexprotitutesitemanagersseekinglove.com should be avoided then

[bjoehoe]

Bjoehoe,,,, maybe that's why participation in this or any other thread is purely voluntary,,,,,, why would you possibly care what others are posting? Go start your own thread and read or spout to your hearts content. geeeez,,, get a life.

Well, this was my opinion on the original post and I posted it voluntarily.
Let me just remind you that the original poster currently is in love with a girl that to his knowledge prostituted herself only once(so where goes the line?), yet his point seems to be that love can not be found amongst bargirls/prostitutes.
I'm sure many out there, also on this forum, gives and receives what they feel is love from x-bargirls.
The same goes for online-dating.
I just could not see the point in his tread. Point made.

[goonersh]

You still say I am having a dig at you, but do not point out what that "dig" was therefore it is very difficult for me to defend myself - except to say it was not the case....

Ok Bob

Making generalisations/assumptions about any group of people either working, or in, a similar situation will undoubtedly only make a fool of the person doing the generalisation....

If that was not directed at me, who was it directed at.... plus the dense comment in the other thread. If i misunderstood it, then tell me

I will ask you only one question about your definition of "Prostitute" above - but I suggest that you think long & hard about it before you reply...

How many times does a woman have to sleep with a man for money to become (& so, to be always referred to as "A former prostitute") once, twice, many?????

Well that is not hard to answer, If its a one (of a two) off than you say "i prostituded myself once or twice" or "she prostituded herself a couple of times" it DOES make you a prostitute for that period, but hardly warrants being called an "ex" prostitute now....

If you go to work in a bar or a brothel or an escort agency as a paid employee and it is your job to sell sex for money, then for all of your life, when describing that period of time you ARE a former prostitute

I will also say that if you go to work in one of these places, and leave after a day or two because it is not for you you can say "i tried being a prostitute but i did not like it"

Now, being that IS NOT an insult, or any kind of derogtory term... its a simple fact of language.... Like i said to you before we ALL prostitute ourselves in some way, and i have nothing at all against ANY girl who wants to sell sex for money, as i have known a few myself

Its only a word, like a flag is only a piece of cloth and not meant in any way to demean those who choose to sell sex for money... that kind of association is all in the mind of the reader of the word. Hell, id do it myself if i could make a few grand a month!!!!

this is my opinion Bob, and feel free to disagree, without calling me dense or all the other stuff i have been called in the past 48 hours

I have more insight and experience into the"adult" world than i am willing to share with you on here... and i know what i am talking about, i do not need to live in Thailand to know what i have SEEN and DONE in my life, and that is what my opinions are based on

ta again

[BobHelm]

Making generalisations/assumptions about any group of people either working, or in, a similar situation will undoubtedly only make a fool of the person doing the generalisation.

That is not the first time I have used this about generalisations (especially in Political threads) and will not be the last, as it is true. Generalisations are the outcome of a lazy mind. If you felt this comment fitted you, then so be it...Nowhere did I say that, it must have been your own conclusion..

The "dense" comment could be taken as an insult if quickly read....the actual quote was

Are you really as dense as you come across as???

But the IMPORTANT part of my post then followed with the Bar analogy. If you cannot see that is how you are reacting on this Forum then I do despair for you.....
As many of the old hands have said on here many times....If you want long lasting loving relationship with a Thai lady then communication is of the greatest importance....I suggest that you think about this & your misunderstandings you seem to be having with many members of the Forum....I have always found that if ever I have been in a situation where I think "everybody is wrong but me" that a re-examination of my position usually means that I change it!!!

[Marmite The Dog]

for i know of no man who has found true love whilst visiting a group of prostitutes in their place of business... and if you know anyone who has.. im all ears. now

I do.

I have met and talked to many girls working in bars over the years, and whilst some seem to enjoy it and the status it brings them from earning loads of cash, most would love to find a decent guy who can give them a decent life (and help out with the family).