Dating site experiences... good or bad please do tell

[jackspratt]

I think you will find we are a rather varied lot on Udon Map, gooner. Different ages, backgrounds, political views, religious affiliations (if any), levels of wealth etc etc etc.

And at times we scrap like cat and dog, but I have generally found no-one disagrees with anyone else 100% of the time.

And then you came along................

[goonersh]

Are you really as dense as you come across as???
Would you walk into a full bar that you have never been into before & start insulting the other customers?
If one of the customers (sitting at a table with two women and another gentlemen) said to his mate "Do you think the Cats will play as **** this week as last". Would you jump into their conversation and say "That is because they are a bag of ****".

Would you ask the bar owner if he could recommend a good Chinese restaurant locally. Then immediately decry his recommendation as being the worst Chinese food you had ever tried??
If you answer YES to all the above then I suggest that you seek professional help.
If you answered NO then maybe, just maybe, you want to re-consider your attitude towards other posters on this site.
The one thing I can assure you is that Udonmap will continue completely satisfactory without your current efforts....

Another insult, thanks Bob.... and as for the analogy, i think i only attacked after being attacked myself... its human nature is it not??? I think you will find i have been most grateful and humble for the good advice i have got on here... but that does not mean i will bend over and take it up the bottom from those who want to stir and insult....

I apologised to Irish Alan for my misunderstanding, asked for my post to be removed, and apoligised again... short of printing off a certificate of sorryness and going to the supreme being to ask for it to be witnessed, i can do no more.... I 100% stand by my other coments on.. well you know who, but thats another story and in the past....

Im sure Udon map will continue quite nicely without me, but so will my life without udon map... My few threads have got some massive exposure, and without the name calling and insults, have been very informative for ALL who views them.. is that not what forums are about????

Please show me where i have insulted any poster since i have been back, and then please review the insults i have received in return... you will see it is a little one sided.

Can i ask you... Why is it ok for you to call me names and not for me to do the same? and as this IS happening, surely its only natural for me to see it as a boys club thing based on who you are..... im sure anyone else would feel the same if it happened to them

I only started the other two threads because jackspratt suggested one and another dude suggested the other.... is that so wrong?

I am not in the slightest bit "dense" well apart fom my belly... and i do not appreciate a modorator calling me names when making a point so could we stop that and just talk about other things?

And Jack, i think you will find i have agreed with lots of stuff said on here... and only disagreed with a tiny bit.... is that so wrong as well? show me 100% opposition to everything that has been said and i will stand corrected.

i LIKE the fact that we are all different, i do NOT like insults without right of reply based on a pecking order


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[jackspratt]

Sorry gooner, perhaps I could have expressed myself more clearly.

I was looking at 100% disagreement from the opposite perspective.

[BobHelm]

Thank you for re-quoting my last post. I think that was unnecessary, but it would have been nice if you actually read it, or attempted to reply to it..
You could also benefit from re-reading Jack's post, as it contains some useful information...
Oh, if you would prefer a statistical based argument & therefore nothing to do with "Pecking order".....

If I ignore your comments... I have made over 3,000 posts. Only 1 person has ever said I have insulted them - I did not believe that I had & it was a misunderstanding, but I apologised anyway.
You have 164 posts - it might be easier if you could tell us how many have NOT insulted someone...

[goonersh]

Sorry gooner, perhaps I could have expressed myself more clearly.

I was looking at 100% disagreement from the opposite perspective.

Aaaaaaaaah, ok, thanks for pointing that out......but to be honest i dont even think there has been that has there Jack??? some has agreed, and some have not.. thats why we are not all cloned robots from test tubes and factories... life is very varied, and we are all individuals

And Bob, i think ive insulted four posters.. apologised to two one of them, tried to sort it out with you... and i stand by one particular one......also four is WAY less than have insulted me, i make that about eight now.. so the ratio is still well against me. Plus i got banned, did my time and have not insulted a single perosn since i have came back

whatever way you look at it a modorator calling someone dense IS an insult to the person being called it so if its the first time ever, how about not letting number two happen

can we drop this now?
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[Roy]

Sorry to not drop it but I think your insult estimate is a little wide of the mark Ash and maybe if you take time to consider that you can understand why some members may be a little wary.
It is possible for others to be offended by comments made to an individual such as the "Mick" incident, it certainly offended me. Also generalizations about Udon and those of us who live here don't help your cause.
That said it's only a forum and I don't take anything said here to heart, maybe you should try the same.
Chill bro

[goonersh]

Ok, here is another. I sold some stuff on Ebay and by chance was on the message boards posting away. I received an email from a lady who basically said she liked my posting style... (haha some people do)
So we added each other to MSN and got chatting. She lived in Perth, which as you might not know is 4000km from Sydney but, after a couple of months I decided to go and meet her. I booked a flight, booked a room and headed over.

I could tell from our MSN's that she was a bit emotional, she seemed to be very probing and at the same time defensive.

Anyway, I got to Perth and to be honest she was a bit tasty.... The first thing she told me was that she was married with three kids, she told me that her hubby and her were more like brother and sister and that she wanted to leave him... all good so far....

She then literally launched herself on top of me forcing her tongue down my throat and saying she loved me..... We hung around for a day or two and by that time I began to realise she was not the stablest girl in the paddock. We did get on ok though until

One night we went out for Mexican food, We were sitting outside and she said to me "tell me more about your past" so I did... within three minutes she burst into tears IN PUBLIC and started to say things like "you aren’t allowed to talk about other things" and "this time is just for me and you"

Now, I do not drink much but I WAS pretty drunk and was a little confused so I sort of ate up, shuffled her back to the hotel and there I pretended to be a bit more drunk that I was in order to spurn her advances on the bed... she literally tried all night to get into my pants....

The next day when I woke up I found her sitting in the chair with her iPod on, she did not talk to me for about five hours, and I then decided to go out. She said she would come along. I wanted to go to Freemantle and she moaned, I wanted to go to an outlet complex, and she moaned...

The final straw for me was, when we got off the train to go to the outlet place, she lost it totally because I said I think we have taken a wrong turn... and I mean she LOST it... at that point I just turned and walked away and I said I would see her later on.

About two hours later back in the hotel things were pretty uncomfortable. She STILL wanted to do things; she acted like nothing had happened. Luckily I had a mate in Perth and I rang him to ask what to do, He tod me to get on a train and come to his place... which I did right away...

She phoned me about 10 times that night crying and saying she has never met anyone like me and that she loved me, it was all a bit much. I tried to comfort her as best I can but I could not do very much.

We were flying out of the same airport the next day and in the morning I got a call from her telling me she had changed her flight so she could see me at the airport, When I saw her there she was crying her eyes out and trying to ram her tongue (literally ram) down my throat in front of about 200 hundred other people

When I got back to Sydney I had this massive love letter from her in which she said all kinds of stuff, I felt really sorry for her and as a result we kept in touch over MSN

About four months ago she said to e on MSN "you only have to wait a bit longer ash" and "can you take on three kids" at the same time she told me she was planning to go to the gold coast and that she wanted to drop by Sydney to say hi to me.

I sort of didn’t mind this as I saw her as a friend, nothing more... and she knew that (I think) as I told her enough times

So she booked her ticket to come here in about a month’s time... As you all know I went to Thailand and met Kloi... when I posted something on facebook about her it all kicked off again...

I got these VERY heave emails from her saying I had broken her heart by being with someone else, and in these emails she told me she had actually left her husband. Although she didn’t say it direct, it was clear that she was coming to Sydney with the intention of moving in (or planning) to move in with me
She then went off on this racist rant against Kloi... and told me I had ruined her plans.

She totally blames me for making her leave her husband, even though I did not know anything about it, when I told her I would not be in Sydney when she was coming she lost it even more... she blamed me for "forcing" her to not come, and she says her life is now totally falling apart because I have found Kloi....

In the past few days I have HAD TO cut her loose, I told her that I never EVER told her I would be with her, that it was her choice to leave her husband... and that even before we met she wanted to do that...
She was absolutely 100% FULL ON

I feel a bit bad because she really is a 100% emotional wreck, her hubby has gone (she told him about our few days and he didnt care) and she does not seem to be coping very well, but i was honest to her all the way along the line.. i could do no more

another one to come soon

[pompui]

[goonersh]

Ah yes, the man who has nothing to say except pansy and lock lock lock... mate, if you are tired then go to bed and stop making pathetic little comments in a thread you have nothing to say in.. noone asked you to read it did they???? but you did....
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[Irish Alan]

Was she a looker? Why didn't you give her one?

[pompui]

Ah yes, the man who has nothing to say except pansy and lock lock lock... mate, if you are tired then go to bed and stop making pathetic little comments in a thread you have nothing to say in.. noone asked you to read it did they???? but you did....
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Thought you were going to at least use a proper OP heading:-

Short stories by Goonersh

Happy to read ur posts

[goonersh]

Ah yes, the man who has nothing to say except pansy and lock lock lock... mate, if you are tired then go to bed and stop making pathetic little comments in a thread you have nothing to say in.. noone asked you to read it did they???? but you did....
ta

Thought you were going to at least use a proper OP heading:-

Short stories by Goonersh

Happy to read ur posts

Well i did say i had a few, and those are only the first two... im waiting for others to post more and then i can move onto the good ones, and possibly the naughty ones.....happy to keep you entertained.......

Arjay, i have a few more GREAT ones, but slowly slowly, ive only posted two...and id be a bit selfish starting a "my" experiences thread.... i can be patient

[arjay]

Please keep to the topic, which I note is Goonersh (author of the topic) asking members to tell of THEIR experiences of dating sites - "please do tell".

So Goonersh, there's really nothing for you to do here or indeed to post about! Just sit back, have a cup of Chamomile tea and wait for others to post of their experiences.

Unfortunately as I haven't used a dating site, I don't personally have any experiences to relate. Though I know a man who does.

[goonersh]

Was she a looker? Why didn't you give her one?

Alan, i did not give her one because (and i mean this honestly) i do not shag just for the sake of shagging, there has to be a connection for me to even go down that path....

I am like this because i have seen and done things when it comes to sex that most men only fantsize about (not bragging, just being fatual) I have have LOTS of involvement in the "adult" industry on few different levels and i have come to realise that casual sex is not the best thing in the world.. making love with someone you have a connection with is... and it was not there

I do not think with my penis EVER, and i do notever go out expecting to shag for the sake of it

hope that makes sense

[Fawn]

Thought you were going to at least use a proper OP heading:-

Short stories by Goonersh

Happy to read ur posts

A waste of time in my view, this is just an exercise in self indulgence for a confused soul who's about to fall into the abyss of a nervous breakdown.

Gooner, you need to create a separate website blog to relate your tales, not set them up here. But of course, you wouldn't get the exposure that you have on Udon Map.

Moderators - this isn't flaming but an honest opinion on my part.

[Irish Alan]

Sure... I don't either. More respect for a girl that doesn't get her city slickers off on a first date. I'm old-fashioned that way...

Anyway... Been there, done that, have t-shirt and all that, however for me never again. I lived in Sri Racha and met a girl online and travelled to Bangkok to meet her. She was stunning... First thing she asked to do was to go and have her hair done. I thought that a bit unusual for a first date. I was 40 she was 22-23 I think. I thought a quick trim in the hairdressers but no it was Toni&Guy's... We chatted as she sat and had tin foil put on her head (this has nothing to do with you know what ok). She said it might take 4 hours and maybe I should go and have a coffee so I did. So I went for coffee and sat staring out the window on my first date with my Siam Princess... Alone. I was trying to decide if I enjoyed being with myself, wanted to kiss myself, leave myself home or ever see myself again.

I went back to get her and her hair looked... The same. Needless to say I was given the bill and I thought well a few hundred Baht no problem for my future wife..... 7,000 Baht... We went to a Japanese restaurant then to a movie. We got those huge emperor class seats. I would have tried to put my arm around her but her seat was in a different time zone.

We took a taxi back to my hotel but she had to be home... "Tladition." So I got to sleep with myself. "Tomorrow we can go shopping, ok mai?" "Ok." I tried to imagine what that would be... Phone, camera, a plasma TV???

Next day I checked out and took a very fast taxi back to Sri Racha.

[goonersh]

A waste of time in my view, this is just an exercise in self indulgence for a confused soul who's about to fall into the abyss of a nervous breakdown.

Gooner, you need to create a separate website blog to relate your tales, not set them up here. But of course, you wouldn't get the exposure that you have on Udon Map.

Moderators - this isn't flaming but an honest opinion on my part.

So if i put a disclamer on the end of it can i call you an idiot who is commenting on somenthing he knows jack about?? or is that not allowed? we will see.........

Moderators - this isn't flaming but an honest opinion on my part.

Sure... I don't either. More respect for a girl that doesn't get her city slickers off on a first date. I'm old-fashioned that way...

Anyway... Been there, done that, have t-shirt and all that, however for me never again. I lived in Sri Racha and met a girl online and travelled to Bangkok to meet her. She was stunning... First thing she asked to do was to go and have her hair done. I thought that a bit unusual for a first date. I was 40 she was 22-23 I think. I thought a quick trim in the hairdressers but no it was Toni&Guy's... We chatted as she sat and had tin foil put on her head (this has nothing to do with you know what ok). She said it might take 4 hours and maybe I should go and have a coffee so I did. So I went for coffee and sat staring out the window on my first date with my Siam Princess... Alone. I was trying to decide if I enjoyed being with myself, wanted to kiss myself, leave myself home or ever see myself again.

I went back to get her and her hair looked... The same. Needless to say I was given the bill and I thought well a few hundred Baht no problem for my future wife..... 7,000 Baht... We went to a Japanese restaurant then to a movie. We got those huge emperor class seats. I would have tried to put my arm around her but her seat was in a different time zone.

We took a taxi back to my hotel but she had to be home... "Tladition." So I got to sleep with myself. "Tomorrow we can go shopping, ok mai?" "Ok." I tried to imagine what that would be... Phone, camera, a plasma TV???

Next day I checked out and took a very fast taxi back to Sri Racha.

hahaha classic, if a girl asked me to get her hair done on a first date, and she was not talking about a waxing of special areas cos she didnt have time too before we met.... id be out of there faster than a spurs supporter leaves white hart lane after another dissapointing home result (and even then i dont know if id pay)

great story Alan

[Fawn]

A waste of time in my view, this is just an exercise in self indulgence for a confused soul who's about to fall into the abyss of a nervous breakdown.

Gooner, you need to create a separate website blog to relate your tales, not set them up here. But of course, you wouldn't get the exposure that you have on Udon Map.

Moderators - this isn't flaming but an honest opinion on my part.

So if i put a disclamer on the end of it can i call you an idiot who is commenting on somenthing he knows jack about?? or is that not allowed? we will see........

Call me what you please, without disclaimers, Doug does it all the time. But I think you're very confused and a bit vulnerable with respect to relationships. You need to take a hard look at who you are and this Forum isn't the place to expose your character's weaknesses.

Chawk dee...

[laphanphon]

Unfortunately as I haven't used a dating site, I don't personally have any experiences to relate. Though I know a man who does.

i have a few stories via internet meetings, but sorry, can't tell, that would violate the trust that they entrusted to me for discretion.

[old-timer]

Ok, by special request again!!!!

Heres ONE of my experiences

I joined a wife swapping club when I was 15 years old........ ..