he is bored to death in Isaan >

[izzix]

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/Bored-Dea ... 73945.html

[beer monkey]

Solly Izzy...i didn't read it, just interested in your disappearance.....whappan...?

[BKKSTAN]

I thought it was an interesting post with some decent advice given.Everyone goes through periods of adjustment to new environments!A lot has to do with your personality!

When I moved to Thailand ,I was used to working most of the time and most of my social interaction was at work.I never have been one to want or need people around me all the time,nor was ''pub or bar life'' part of my routine!

But after the ''pursuing of the relationship'' settled out into routine,I found that I missed the familiarity of my home country language,American English,where I could understand and communicate easily,not having to explain what I or the other person was talking about, sayings and jokes especially!

I wasn't seeking intimate sharing,just casual relaxed BS,as I really am a personality that enjoys his privacy and quiet space.Living in Bangkok,I found that very few falangs made eye contact while in the community or around the condo,social groups and clubs were mostly made up of ''businessmen/hustlers'' looking to network with like kind etc.,so I found that I spent more time at the gym or ocassionally visiting a day time sex tourist venue (beer Garden) or playing pool at Gullivers.Other than developing one close falang friend at Gullivers and some ''chit chat'',I watched the ''games'' played between the punters and the girls,but it all got very boring after awhile!

Moving to NK,I found myself out and about in the pubs ,drinking more,putting on alot of weight,without thinking about my reasons.Just sort of transferring Bangkok lifestyle to NK,but on more of a daily basis.Boredom was starting to slip in,until I stopped hanging around the falang establishments with the same old BS going on everyday,seeming like the my World was revolving around pubs and local gossip I started thinking retirement is hard

Then I got back into the gym with some different falang personalities,started riding a bicycle around town regularly,took on more household chores ,lots of reading and spent more time on the forum,got a loving and fun dog,spend more time helping the teenage daughter etc. and now I find very little time for boredom as my days are more than full!

It is really about finding and doing the things that are important to me,not worrying about anything else and taking the World around me in stride,being honest to my true convictions ,at the time!

I wish everyone the contentment I feel most all the time.Now if I should trip over a cure for old age.....

[Galee]

It must be difficult re-locating to somewhere where you don't know anyone.

Personally I've never been bored in Udon, not that I thought I would be when I came here. Prior to living here permanently I had made friends with people at the UM monthly meetings and had also made friends with a group I played golf with and had a regular bar where I felt comfortable.
Like Stan I appreciate my own space, so being alone isn't a problem. I'm also a bit of a lazy bar steward, which helps.

[laphanphon]

didn't read the article, but can imagine what it says. i think it takes a different kind of person to even think about retiring in thailand, and if not well thought out, or the right personality to adjust, then failure to appreciate, or missing what was important to you from back home, then a little more research was needed before deciding to come here.

i am the loner type, and don't need much socializing in my life. being one of the laziest people i know, i don't get bored that often, since there is always something i need to do, that i procrastinated doing already, and i'll get to that later anyway. i do find myself in the house too much, especially since changing locations, there is nothing in the area i care for, but i try to force myself out once in a while, where as the other house, it was nice just relaxing outside, though here, morning coffee on the balcony is about all i appreciate. also force myself to eat lunch out everyday, which i've been lacking lately, but that helps appreciate being here, as something that probably couldn't be done in the states. plus.............no dishes to wash.

after eight years, i can count the number of times people visited my home on my hands, and the same wth my out and abouts, so a private person. no real hobbies, that lazy thing again and outdoor hobbies, way too hot for that, half the year. luckily my personality fits and i don't get bored and appreciate what is here. don't miss much from the past. if getting a little cabin fever, jump in car and go hang out someplace with different scenery, or good reason for little holiday. luckily not a drinker or bar person. think my lifestyle would drive most of my friends nuts, as they are golfers, or go to the gym, or meet up every now and then, on weekly or more so basis. where a couple times a month is good for me.

having a very compatible partner, almost as lazy as me, but keeps herself occupied with her hobby/business, so not interfering with each others private time, me on this electronic box, her, sewing, crochet, painting, or photoshopping, whether for me or her. somehow it all sees to work.

when i do get bored, in my retirement, i just think back when i wasn't and the only thing i looked forward to, was to retire and do everything at my own pace, a bit slower than most. bored is much better than hectic. as i used to tell my friends, the times i went back to states every now and then, as they would ask, 'don't you get bored, what do you do all day', my reply was, 'all the things you try to do on your days off, i have all the time in the world to do'........................the rest is my private relaxing time, which i take very seriously. what a lazy sh*t.

[laphanphon]

ok, read that thread, yo izzix, need a disclaimer, 'not the usually long winded BS info that we don't need'

quite short, was expecting an long winded whinging experience.

where you been, almost missed you, BM has been filling in on some news articles for you. though i usually have already read what you post, unless pattaya or relationship related, which i don't go looking for or try to avoid.

but on topic, he seems like he just need to connect with some good mates, couple good replies in the thread, farily worldwide, get the F out an explore. KK forum is good place to start for him, and functions, unofficial volunteering, school/ophanage, though care should be taken so he doesn't put himself in a dangerous situation.

[tom1941]

I Have lived in Udonthani now for 3 years and am never bored, you have to put in what you want out of your life. Bars , beer, women , some life every night and day, if you can remember the days?. I teach English at my village school for free and know all the locals who talk to me every day and all the kids respect me and my thai wife. I visit their homes and find I am welcome to all of them.I also teach at the hospital and my students are 18 to 45 years and all of them show me much gratitude and always respect as I show to them.Its not who you are ,but what you are .a person not an object ,I could go on and on about my experiences over 4 years ,but in the end it's up to you .once a boozer always a boozer, critisise, and be critisised, take a long look at yourself , remember you are the alien, but you can be part of the thai world TOM

[izzix]

i was away in isaan ,Nong Khai area to see my family and do some jobs around the house .i have a piccy of my powder burning rifle to post ,i just need to figure out where and how to post it ,any clues ?

[Irish Alan]

At what point are you at Izzy? Have you transferred your pics to your pc? If yes then click reply on here on a relevant thread and on the bottom there is a browse button then navigate to your photos. I use an image hosting site, ImageChicken (http://www.imagechicken.com/). Same deal, upload photos, copy the code, click reply on here, click the img button then paste the code between the image (img) tags in the reply message box.

[beer monkey]

Yeah Izzy Man...i have never seen you post a pic, i would of thought a man who has been using the t'internet for forums since 1965 it would be a piece of cake..

In addition to IA's post, just use upload attachmant at the bottom of post reply box...or click browse for imageshack

[tom1941]

Bored in Udon . its what you do and how you think, talk and treat people.
I have been in Udon 3years, and have made many thai and european friends , have learnt some of the language. I go and teach the children in government schools, teach the nurses in nong bua saw go out to the villiages and help the disabloed, in the bars I am well known and respected as I respect all of the thais no matter what they do. I lead a full live with one lady and I am very happy with life
there is always a bad apple. but thank god there are many good apples, get rid of the bad apples?
you only have one life LIVE IT FOR GOOD tom1941 You must earn respect
By the way I am a volunteer and gain nothing but friendship

[BKKSTAN]

Tom,you jumped on an old post!But service is the ideal way to get out of boredom!Unfortunately,there is a hurdle of selfcenterness to get past in order to think about others