intrenet dating.

[PAUL STAKER]

I taught I seen a topic about dating sites a short while back but I cannot see it now . It is of special to me at this time as I have been searching online for a partner for some time now. Thailand really appeals to me and 4 of the ladies that I am in contact with are in or near udorn thanee. One is a really sweet gal but she does not speak english so her aunt translates for her. She is the most keen and sends me an email just about every day. It seems there is a big difference of opinion on internet dating and even my buddies warn me about it as they hear of to many scam artitst. I have tried it before here but it just did’nt work out. I guess I have nothing to lose as I think it will be an adventure to go to udorn thanee and hook up at that meeting and experience thailand. If it does’nt work out with the ladies from the internet I am not to worried as Im sure it will be easy to meet someone there anyway.

Regards,

Paul.

[izzix]

there is plenty of discussions on thai forums about this. IMO its a waste of time as they are mostly opportunists with a hidden agenda . they are after practising their english and are time wasters ,looking for money to pay off their gambling debts with their hubbies approval ,looking for suckers to clean out etc.some want a casual relationship.its the numbers game & they are all mostly the wrong type of women.some just want a guy to send them money and phones .

[izzix]

some are not even women but ladyboys and nigerian scammers, using bogus pictures of themselves ,even the genuine pics are not anything like them in many cases .

[plien]

It would be interesting if anyone can name some of these asian datingsites and and rate them from good to bad.

"Fall in love
Play the game
Everybody play the game
Of love"
Queen

[Fawn]

looking for suckers to clean out etc.

Ain't nothing wrong with suckers, hombre.

some are not even women but ladyboys and nigerian scammers, using bogus pictures of themselves ,even the genuine pics are not anything like them in many cases .

No offence my gun totin' old mucker but you seem to speak from some experience?

Never had you down as a ladyboy chaser, Izzie.

Do you like chaps in dresses, Paul?

[Irish Alan]

I already posted my online experiences and poured my heart out to the world then it disappeared. I ain't going through that again. IMHO, living in Udon Thani and searching online for a girl is like sitting in the middle of the Sahara Desert with a copy of the Golden Pages looking for a sand salesman.

[plien]

Oops seems like I slipped in on the wrong subject here.
Fawn, I can assure you I`m 100 % lesbian, trapped in a mans body.
Plien

[izzix]

there was a news article some time ago about a Nigerian scammer posing as a thai women, the whole system is infested with time wasters and jokers .look at the age ranges quoted by young teenagers - 16-80 years for their potential new farang hubby ! and guys especialy Norwegians do send money and goods to women they hardly know .its easier than doing the lottery ,the odds are very good

[Fawn]

Fawn, I can assure you I`m 100 % lesbian, trapped in a mans body.

Oh yeah, that's what all the Lesbians say.

Izzie, odd what you said about chaps from Norway, I wonder why they get scammed more than others. That Norway Bar from a few months ago springs to mind.

[electricman911]

well I can try to help here , I joined Thailand Love Links 18 months ago my second wife had left me I had gone almost blind and I was hurting real bad ,I came across TLL and I paid my £37 for 3 months membership ,it was the best £37 I had ever ever paid !! I was getting 30-40 emails a day from beautyful Thai women I was up at 6am and never left my computer until 10pm at night , if it did nothing else it took my mind of the ex wife .
I have made many lady friends who gave me adbice like bar girls are skinny and smoke and drink and if you find a lady who is honest and genuine she will want you to meet her parents , so \I whittled them down to about 20 names most of which I still talk to on msn but i settled on 1 who is 26yrs my junior I went to meet her after talking to her on Skype for 12 weeks every day for 4 hrs we talked more than i did with the wife ,I liked her she said she liked me I came home and went back within 8 weeks married her and now she is here in the uk with me for the last 11 months is there problems YES she thinks money is no problem she doesent understand the recession but she is learning and she is beautyful and has her 11 yr old daughter with us who is the most charming well mannered girl I have ever met , she spoke no english last October but now is very good the school is amazed how well educated she is in maths and science she is a credit to her country I wish I could take some credit for her as a father .
So I would have no hesitation in looking for another from TLL if something does happen with my present wife it is me who has the problem as she is 31 I am 57 grey hair overweight and not exactly healthy but hey whatever happens when I am lying on my death bed there will be a smile on my face .

[rick]

Last year, corresponded with about 6 women on Date in Asia, met 3. All fairly honest, one wanted money, one completely honest and very western outlook, other more traditional but seemed genuine (first meeting was with family). if you find a fabulous, young, single girl with no kids then be very careful as why is she looking there? If they look for someone with a wide age range, bad sign also. If you are sensible and have realistic expectations, you might be lucky.

[plien]

Hi electricman, very nice post. Maybe I`ll get back to you with some questions later on. Wish you the best of luck, Plien

[izzix]

its the numbers game, if you plough thru enough gals over a given period you might get lucky. the downside is she could be playing a long game . but new laws in the UK on passports soon ,will mean they wont get a passport until they are in UK for 10 years instead of a PP at 5 years which is doable for some. Petch a gal that screwed my buddy waited for 5 years to get the passport then found herself a Frenchman and scooted .she had it all planned out including many large bank loans which were never paid ,and she was pursued to france for repayment but they kept moving to evade them.he met her thru a dating service .

[izzix]

maybe the Norwegian suckers work on oil rigs and never get home for some pussy ,because norwegian gals are very cock happy so it doesnt make sense !

[plien]

Yes Izzix, it`s the numbers game. But if you know their game you can play it too. Electricman was smart and chose a lady with a kid. She will have the best in mind for her child always. If he is decent to them they will both adore him. As Rick says, they are as different as we are. And we have to get real here, if the lady is 20 and she has no problem with daing a 65 year old... come on, have we forgotten what it was to be 20 ourselfs?
If I meet one who is in the game for money, the carrot will be money and then I move on. But. If I meet this traditional innocent lady... I would do some soul searching- are we compatible in the long run? What are her parents expecting from me? Do we make each other happy? Trust and communication? Is she very possessive? She can be the real one, but maybe not for me, then I walk away without taking advantage of the situation.
In the meantime I do some internet dating and enjoy it. Plien

[beer monkey]

there was a news article some time ago about a Nigerian scammer posing as a thai women, the whole system is infested with time wasters and jokers .look at the age ranges quoted by young teenagers - 16-80 years for their potential new farang hubby ! and guys especialy Norwegians do send money and goods to women they hardly know .its easier than doing the lottery ,the odds are very good

I bet it never used to be though...they just spotted an outlet for their sceaming ways to prey on the lonely people looking for a partner...


I suspect it is a bit of a jungle out there regarding net dating...works for some..others it don't, bit of a Russian roulette type of thing, i think the op is doing the right thing keep options open meet up with 6 or more girls...one has got to come good surely.

I trawled through hundreds of pages last year...sounded like some genuine ladys...with a mix of suspect ones...same as if you was on the ground so to speak

And just a note to PAUL STRAKER...these topics are always popular, but sometimes they do get deleted as things can get a bit heated...*i take it all your correspondents have seen a pic of you...? i say that as if you haven't sent your pic you might be wise to send it....if thats you in the av that is....


*just pulling your leg on the photo thing...joke..

[BarnicaleBob]

I have been on Thai Love Links for about four months, so I am a bit of new to the online dating thing but I have learned a lot during that short time.
First of all I found TLL to have more ladies to pick from and the profiles have a lot more of information about each lady. After a little bit of experimenting, I found the best way to meet a good lady is to not answer those that send interest posts to you. You need to be the one sending the posts of interest.
I say this because I have been contacted by ladies that were indeed from places other than Thailand and in most cases their profiles were incomplete. On such lady offered to send me more photos of her but said she did not have a camera (No, I did not fall for that). That is why I scan through the profiles of the ladies that are from the area of Thailand I want to live in. This way I pick what is right for me and I contact them.
I did notice that once in a while it appeared that someone had hijacked some other ladies profile. In all those cases the person using that profile always wanted to go to a IM service other than TLL. My suggestion is to read the profiles and when IMing the ladies ask questions and see if the answers match up to the profile. In all the cases that the lady seemed to be a con, their answers to things about their profiles did not match.
Being 61years, old I used a little common sense and only picked ladies that were between the ages of 40 and 45, were looking for men above the age of 40 only and maybe had one child. I did this because I want a lady that will stay with me for the rest of my life and I figure one in this age range would be ready to settle down and would be happy to put up with an old fart like me in exchange for a secure life.
After I had found six ladies that would reply to me with interest I hid my profile so nobody else would not be bothered by others. I chatted live via IMs with the six ladies I picked until I found one that seemed more honest, loving and compatible to me. I then stopped my communication with the others and have been focused on the one I picked for the past couple of months. We IM for an hour every day and she is willing to wait for me to arrive in Thailand in Feb. or Mach next year. Meanwhile we have worked out a lot of details as to how we will live and what we expect from each other. I feel very confident I have made a good pick but even if it fails when I arrive in Udon, I will have learned a lot about relating to Thai women and don't think I will have a difficult time finding a replacement.
In the meantime this forum has been a valuable source of information and because of being on this forum I will have a good plan and know where to go and what I need to do to get settled in when I arrive.

[plien]

Good luck to you also BB. Very informative post, guess we can learn a lot from sharing here. Are there any other sites out there covering Thailand? So far we have Date In Asia and Thai Love links.
And is there a way to compare them?
Take care and be happy, Plien

[Irish Alan]

My ex was on Asianeuro.com. She had a thing for Germans and Finns. We were on a trip to Nong Khai and our hotel had a PC in the room. I was watching a movie and I looked around and she was checking profiles on AE.

[jimboLV]

I found asianphotodates.com to be reasonable. Lots of women with detailed profiles. I actually met a couple of girls on there that seemed to be legitimate but we just didn't hit it off after meeting, and parted by mutual agreement (more or less). I would recommend strongly not to get too involved before you meet personally. Especially with the language difference, communication in person is a lot different from emails or IM. I would narrow it down to two or three, then come over and meet each one and then choose. Ironically I didn't meet my current wife that way, but she was a friend of another girl I met through the website. We hit it off from the beginning and it has worked out perfectly. I couldn't be happier.