Are Farangs 'sticky/stingy/tight/kee Neow.....?

[Texpat]

It's pretty obvious you have no understanding of the history of that person. She was pretty much thrown out of the family for marrying a farang.

[mrnicey1966]

It makes me laugh to read these posts .

when i first wrote about my ex-wifes money hungry family , all you expats were on the defensive but now it seems that alot of you feel trodden on and treated like walking banks .
You all now have a duty to your thai families to impress them and their friends , buy the family a new truck , build a new house for the family , increase the families land portfolio , and be a walking bank to be manipulated at their convenience and if you dont agree , you,ll be shown the door of the house which stands on the land that you paid for and for the old misers who eat at the 10 baht food stalls and save all your rubbish for the recycle man , What a Great Life .i envy you not

i would rather have a fortnights holiday on koh phi phi and other beautiful islands and then return to reality rather then living like a pauper 365 days a year and being expected to pay for everything without one word of gratitude .

goodluck

[jackspratt]

It makes me laugh to read these posts .

when i first wrote about my ex-wifes money hungry family , all you expats were on the defensive but now it seems that alot of you feel trodden on and treated like walking banks .
You all now have a duty to your thai families to impress them and their friends , buy the family a new truck , build a new house for the family , increase the families land portfolio , and be a walking bank to be manipulated at their convenience and if you dont agree , you,ll be shown the door of the house which stands on the land that you paid for and for the old misers who eat at the 10 baht food stalls and save all your rubbish for the recycle man , What a Great Life .i envy you not

i would rather have a fortnights holiday on koh phi phi and other beautiful islands and then return to reality rather then living like a pauper 365 days a year and being expected to pay for everything without one word of gratitude .

goodluck

Believe me, Mr nicey, your posts also have an amusing ring to them, and are also laughable at times

[LoveDaBlues]

It's pretty obvious you have no understanding of the history of that person. She was pretty much thrown out of the family for marrying a farang.

While "that person" remained in the U.S., her mother and other members of "that family" often flew to the United States for visits. She likewise flew to Thailand along with her husband to visit her parents and the other members of "that family", while joining them and taking part in ceremonies with "that family" when she visited Thailand.


Yea, I guess you're right; "that family" really distanced themselves from her. :-"

[warmeduque]

It makes me laugh to read these posts .

when i first wrote about my ex-wifes money hungry family , all you expats were on the defensive but now it seems that alot of you feel trodden on and treated like walking banks .
You all now have a duty to your thai families to impress them and their friends , buy the family a new truck , build a new house for the family , increase the families land portfolio , and be a walking bank to be manipulated at their convenience and if you dont agree , you,ll be shown the door of the house which stands on the land that you paid for and for the old misers who eat at the 10 baht food stalls and save all your rubbish for the recycle man , What a Great Life .i envy you not

i would rather have a fortnights holiday on koh phi phi and other beautiful islands and then return to reality rather then living like a pauper 365 days a year and being expected to pay for everything without one word of gratitude .

goodluck

I would rather have sex fortnights life in Pattaya and live the reality there,than living a "love relation" in Isaan implying to be the milking cow.
The 1000 bht Lt will spare me many bs.

Well i wouldn't presuppose right now..i have only a slight knowledge of Isaan i recognize..i will see by myself what is all about the walkings buffalos atm in Isaan.

[BKKSTAN]

warmeduque,I don't think anyone wants the BS in their life,but for some sex w/o intimacy is not sustaining enough!So getting more involved into an intimate relationship,they hope to gain more fulfillment!For some it works ,others it turns into BS!

[LoveDaBlues]

warmeduque,I don't think anyone wants the BS in their life,but for some sex w/o intimacy is not sustaining enough!So getting more involved into an intimate relationship,they hope to gain more fulfillment!For some it works ,others it turns into BS!

Great post Stan! =D>

I did the BG thing for awhile, didn't work for me. Now I'm with the same lady for 4.5 years. Just works better for me.
Now, where is that ATM card?

[Stef]

The op stinks a little, he rants on about it as if talking from 1st hand exp. and it reads like the main accuser is his wife/partner, then follows up with "I've never been called it either".

1st. It is a Thai culture for the wealthiest person in the party to 1. they do the inviting and 2. foot the bill. Take a look in any restaurant you'll rarely see a romantic couple at a table it's always a crowd/family of 10-15, there's not a falang among them, who's gonna pay? Watch and learn (haven't u ever been curious) the man or woman with the greatest amount of gold around the neck takes full control, they've been the centre of attention all night, everybody weying him/her and never a spare seat next to them as family members/friends suck up to them. This is their reward, in their eyes, 'if I want people to think I'm mr/miss big-shot I got the beemer, the concrete house and all the gold, I can't let them see me being tight over a bar-bill" so they pay with the biggest smile on their face, more often the party will thank them many times, and this is the big dif. they respect him/her, they rarely have respect for a total stranger esp. from a foreign country.

2nd. If you're 20+yrs her senior, add to that the usual 40+ waist and bald head that so often accompany so many falang here, then guess what, she is with you for your money, it doesn't matter that she wasn't a bar girl, or had a good job in the complex, she is with you for your money, that's why so many of you can't do the typical thing that husband and wife do - have joint accounts, share money, etc. how many of you actually pay your misses a weekly/monthly allowance - it's called a salary for services rendered, and it unlikely they will ever have any respect for you - in fact they probably despice you

If the above doesn't describe your situation, try this...
Educate your beautiful, equal partner in how to hold on to your (meaning both) well earned cash, teach her how to budget, how to say no, how to haggle, all the time explaining this is our culture and this is why we are able to save money and come out here to retire. Teach them that showing off cash and flashing it around, is a short-lived buzz, and isn't sustainable.

When I go out with my wife's family, I make sure they know it's a special ocassion, that I am paying, I then discuss numbers with my misses, and know exactly who is coming. My wife has no problem vetting the family, not to bring any unplanned strangers, because she knows this is our money, we accept that her family doesn't have much, but neither of us want to be taken for granted, or have the p*** taken out of us, she'll also teach them that it is polite to say thank you after, so far I've never been caught unaware, and so often when I here the falang sob-stories I think - serves you right mate!!!

Finally if any woman/partner calls you khee-niow - take her to the bus-stop unless it was totally called for.

[mrnicey1966]

I like your honesty stef , at last a thai lady has been honest about why younger thai girls are with their older , plumper and hairless western partners - FOR YOUR MONEY .

its good to hear it from the horses mouth for once ( i take it you are thai ) .

thats a good idea , before your thai wife /gf arranges a meal out , you falangs should discuss the arrangements with your thai partners instead of whinging about being landed with the bill .
if your thai partner really cares about your opinion then she will listen and act on what you say and if she refers to you as being a tight arse then you act like a tight arse

good comments from stef =D> =D> =D> =D>

[jackspratt]

I like your honesty stef , at last a thai lady has been honest about why younger thai girls are with their older , plumper and hairless western partners - FOR YOUR MONEY .

its good to hear it from the horses mouth for once ( i take it you are thai ) .

stef would appear to be neither Thai, nor a lady.

Based on those fairly pertinent facts, should you go back and reconsider your post?

[mrnicey1966]

No , i think the post will stay

[Aardvark]

Well in that case Stef is a Thai Woman from England with an Issan wife

[mrnicey1966]

if steph is a thai woman or an englishman with a thai wife , she or he is being honest about why thai women in general get involved with older, overweight , toothless and/or hairless western men , its not for eternal love , its for eternal financial gain and as steph explains , some of your thai partners will despise every second spent with you , thats not all but some .

[Laan Yaa Mo]

That is not nice at all. In fact, it is cruel.

You are a cruel man Mr. Nicey. 55555

[KHONDAHM]

Educate your beautiful, equal partner in how to hold on to your (meaning both) well earned cash, teach her how to budget, how to say no, how to haggle, all the time explaining this is our culture and this is why we are able to save money and come out here to retire. Teach them that showing off cash and flashing it around, is a short-lived buzz, and isn't sustainable.

=D> =D> =D> =D>
Co-signed.

After we were together and before we got married, my wife told me THB 12k was enough monthly support. Today she has a very large bank account - can buy dang near anything she wants - but still refuses to buy clothes from anywhere other than the night market, shops for food mainly at the farmers' market, and never wears her jewelry unless we are visiting the village (a quite way to say "kiss my a__" to certain people). I am PROUDLY kee-neow and I brag about it. She has even ME beat. lol

Stef's words are golden.

[Stantheman]

.......get involved with older, overweight , toothless and/or hairless western men

I am neither toothless and/or hairless! , and my TW, like KHONDAHM's wife, uses the farmers market and night market for most of her day to day purchases, She was this way when I met her, because of a prior marraige to a Thai philanderer, she had to self support 2 children, a mother and pay for a house that was bought prior to her divorce from her first husband. She does not wear gold as she thinks it is a waste of money, and when we go out with her many friends on our visits to Udon, they insist on sharing the cost of the food.
Those of you who are picky may comment on any spelling/grammer errors as you wish, without any thought of comments back on my part.

[Instowman]

Well you have really managed to spook me into making changes to my preparations for my trip to Isan at Christmas so I don’t become another stereotype Farang.

I will have to get a new wig, new implanted teeth and a stronger corset to reduce the waist size.

This of course will leave less to spend on gold, mobile phones and visiting good restaurants.

Decisions decisions.

[BKKSTAN]

It is really irrelevant what others think of you,if you are a respectful,caring,polite and goodhearted person that likes yourself!

""You can not please all the people all the time'',so be yourself and get on about life!

I like the saying;''Treat others as you would like others to treat you !''

Someones else selfish motives will determine how and why they label you!Why buy into it?Egoooooooooo?

[mrnicey1966]

well at least i spice up these topics with my opinions

[warmeduque]

warmeduque,I don't think anyone wants the BS in their life,but for some sex w/o intimacy is not sustaining enough!So getting more involved into an intimate relationship,they hope to gain more fulfillment!For some it works ,others it turns into BS!

Unless he is a masochist wanting to be totally dominated by a female and get dump..
Maybe some male farang have this dream..

I don't think i'm really ready to go into an intimate relationship or a serious one.
Of course i can't have everything without taking some risk.
But for the moment..i prefer no string attached.
I prefer to butterfly.

I just know that is easier to say ,to speak like that now,but on the ground if a cute thai girl,sexy whom i found very desirable or have some kind of crush..it would be not easy to not enter in a serious relationship.
I totally reckon that i will need to get real on this one and looking at how i behave.
It's the last thing that i want at the moment to fall really in love with a Thai lady as i cannot sustain a living in Thailand.
If i was plenty of cash..i would take the risk..but as i need to come back to farangland i don't want any kind of long distance relation.

Maybe i will try the gik option but don't know if it will work...will see so i will get some kind of compromise.
The bg card fit well to me in how i represent myself there..i don't need to do the Pattaya stuff or have hundreds of bars available,just some good actions some times or some regulars will do the trick.