Another thing that pissed me off today...

[ezrider]

About 5 months ago our then six yr. old son was given two vacinations at his school without notifiying us, let alone getting our permission. We keep him current on all his vacinations on our own. THAT pissed me off

[parrot]

I'm not saying folks don't have a right to be pissed off, but this is, after all, Thailand......not the US/UK/Australia. If your kid is going to school here and you expect the school to follow the same rules that are in place in your home country, you're in for a rude awakening. Likewise with restaurant cleanliness, food safety practices, drivers obeying traffic laws and a host of other conveniences/good practices that we take for granted back home. My Thai teacher's mother is a primary school teacher in a village school just outside of Udon. She's told me some horrendous stories about teachers who don't take lightly to students mouthing off, wearing their hair too long, or showing any sort of disrespect. Likewise, the village doctor/nurse's son came home from M.2 in late August with swatches of hair missing from the back of his scalp. They didn't go complain to the school.....instead they took their son to the village barber for a shear.

When I was in the military, I enjoyed the final shaving touch to the back of the neck after a haircut. About 20 years ago, the barbers in the US stopped doing it. I inquired......'AIDS' was the answer. Thankfully, the barber here still give a neck shave after a haircut, and as best I can tell, I still haven't come down with AIDS. I'm happy with that and happy that I don't have a kid in Thai school.

[nkstan]

TiT for sure,so we either eat it or beat it,but it is therapuetic to be able to spill it,so we can accept it and not make gross mistakes because of it!!

[Sport]

What pisses me off Everyday. Cheap charlies who come into my Aussie Burger Bar and expect to pay 7/11 prices for alcohol, bring their own spirtits and food, yet want to use all the conveniences.......not welcome at all, pisses me off Everyday. And I love being a c..t to them.

[nkstan]

What pisses me off Everyday. Cheap charlies who come into my Aussie Burger Bar and expect to pay 7/11 prices for alcohol, bring their own spirtits and food, yet want to use all the conveniences.......not welcome at all, pisses me off Everyday. And I love being a c..t to them.

That would piss me off also,but at least you have the right and the power to do something about it!

[stattointhailand]

What pisses me off Everyday. Cheap charlies who come into my Aussie Burger Bar and expect to pay 7/11 prices for alcohol, bring their own spirtits and food, yet want to use all the conveniences.......not welcome at all, pisses me off Everyday. And I love being a c..t to them.

Seems to me Sport that you should refer to a previous post in this thread:-

I'm not saying folks don't have a right to be pissed off, but this is, after all, Thailand......not the US/UK/Australia.

If you are (as it would appear) a bar owner, then you should already know that it is "the norm" here in Thailand to take your bottle of spirits (and sometimes the mixers as well) to the bar. It is also not unknown for customers to buy food from street sellers/other bars and eat them at whichever bar they are sitting. May be, next time you get "pissed off", you should stop and have a think about whether you REALLY want to be a bar owner in Thailand. If the answer is "yes" (and I hope it is, as without you guys, us expats lives would be much poorer), it may be time to step back and think that even though you are only getting a few Baht from these guys, they are making your bar look busy (which, both you and I know, is great for attracting customers through the door). A "busy" bar will always become busier, whilst an "empty" bar will on most occations stay empty.

I'll have to drop in for a beer and a chat soon (sorry it will only be a small one as I don't drink the "biggies")

[Sport]

Statto, I will not be taking a step backwards and think about this, its my bar and I will run it the best way I see fit. Just because this is Thailand and other bars may allow this to happen, its up to them, I certainly will not be dictated too by cheap charlies.

I have been asked to put on cheap beer just to have bums on seats to make the place look busy, and those people (a small golfing crowd from Nutty Park) have been told politely to find another bar. Our place gets busy enough at times, not to warrant the attendance of the cheapies. Saying that, the ladies who come into the bar who want Thai food can buy it outside and bring it in, we do not cook Thai food so we have the menu from the Thai bar next door.

Statto your welcome to come in for a small beer and a chat, we do not sell large bottles.

Thanks for your input,
Rob, Aussie Burger Bar.

[stattointhailand]

Cheers Rob ...... see ya soon

[Seahawk]

I will tell you what has Really Pissed Me Off today. I have had to be in The Uk for the past couple of months tieing a few things up. I have been staying with family and friends. I am booking my flight to return to Sunny Udon next week and yesterday, I realised that I still had my old Nectar Points Card in my wallet. I have had it since 2003 and before that, since 2001 (when it was a Sainsburys Store Points Card). I have never cashed in my points, but know that I have literally spent thousands of pounds on it over the years. Thinking I will probably never use it again, I decided to cash them in and buy some food, beer, wine etc at Sainsburys for my family. I went online to check how much I had to spend only to find that my card had been blocked. I telephoned customer service (not a free number) and spoke to someone in Bombay/Delhi and asked why I could not access my Nectar Account only to be informed that as I had not used my card for over 12 months, it had been cancelled and all points deleted. Am I pissed off? Oh Yes! Did I accept the offer of a new Nectar Card starting with 0 points? Did I Sh*t*!
Any Brits who have such a card, take heed.
Rant Over

[thrilled]

There are so many things that piss me off,but I usually just bite the bullet and go on from there.They say it's better to stay calm then to get upset.Ya know the saying,"its better to get pissed off than to get pissed on".

[Bandung_Dero]

Statto, I will not be taking a step backwards and think about this, its my bar and I will run it the best way I see fit. Just because this is Thailand and other bars may allow this to happen, its up to them, I certainly will not be dictated too by cheap charlies.

I have been asked to put on cheap beer just to have bums on seats to make the place look busy, and those people (a small golfing crowd from Nutty Park) have been told politely to find another bar. Our place gets busy enough at times, not to warrant the attendance of the cheapies. Saying that, the ladies who come into the bar who want Thai food can buy it outside and bring it in, we do not cook Thai food so we have the menu from the Thai bar next door.

Statto your welcome to come in for a small beer and a chat, we do not sell large bottles.

Thanks for your input,
Rob, Aussie Burger Bar.

A good stand, Sport. Eddie here in Ban Dung basically has the same philosophies, he has more than his fair share of cheap charlies, trying to take advantage, to whom he invites to go elsewhere.

[hangsaboot]

I have been asked to put on cheap beer just to have bums on seats to make the place look busy, and those people (a small golfing crowd from Nutty Park) have been told politely to find another bar.

CHEAP CHARLIE GOLFERS , ,,, a dogy bag , for the first hole in one ,, chaps .

Statto your welcome to come in for a small beer and a chat, we do not sell large bottle

[KHONDAHM]

Another of the same type of pissed-off as in my OP happened, but different situation and circumstances. This time involving my 6 mo son. So I almost became physical. Never have I ever been that close to striking my wife.

I told her several times and we discussed and agreed that:

Our 8 yo would never be entrusted to look after him. She is just not responsible enough and is easily distracted.
She would always use a "Is this room safe?" mentality whenever he is moved to another room.

So what happened? She left him with our daughter in her bedroom on her single-sized bed while our daughter was playing a video game and seated with her back to the bed. You know what is coming. I was in a nearby room
and heard a loud thud followed by wailing which horrified me! I made it to the room in an instant leaving a trail of debris of things unfortunate enough to be between me and the shortest distance to my son. After quickly checking that he was indeed ok (thank goodness hard heads run in my family), I comforted him until the crying stopped.

Where was my wife? I asked myself. There is no doubt she heard him. None whatsoever.

At least 5 minutes later, she casually sauntered into our room wanting to know if he was ok. I swear. If I had not been holding him in my arms, I would have gone for the throat. Instead, I told her to leave the room and stay away from me and our son until I'd calmed down. In my family (in the USA), we NEVER leave a baby in a dangerous position and if something does happen, we react like I reacted - the mother even moreso - you do not want to be in the way. For her to react that way as if our son wailing was about as urgent as toast popping up enraged me more than the fact that she'd endangered him in ways we'd already discussed she would not. She could have more easily left him in the room with me, instead. I am shocked and angered at the lack of urgency and maternal concern she has shown on numerous occasions. I won't list them all, but it is "natural" things like not picking up the phone when she goes to the market (yes, she really goes to the market) or responding with urgency if my daughter or I call her while he is crying about anything. Maybe the matter is trivial. Maybe it is truly urgent. Maybe he is a hare's breath from death and is screaming for help. What's more, he is NOT a crier. So if he is crying about anything - nevermind wailing - it is urgent.

I am just so pissed off about all this. I've calmed down and discussed it with her again with the same same response: "Ok, sorry. I do better next time."

...next time..?

[Brian Davis]

I'm pleased your son is ok, Khondahm.

I'm sorry to say I could fill this page with stories of accidents here, which might have been prevented by awareness, anticipation, caution - whatever, that something bad just MIGHT happen.

[stattointhailand]

Unfortunately Khondahm the Thai "maternal" gene is replaced at birth with a "lets get as far away from here as possible" gene. It is usually a case of leave the baby with the family whilst I work somewhere else in the country and send money home, but occationally (usually when married to a resident farang, as opposed to a commuting farang ), this is not possible, so leaving papa to look after baby/ dumping baby on neighbour/ leaving baby alone, seems to be the only other option available for a "loving Thai mother".

[KHONDAHM]

So here I am posting again. SSDD. This time she got pissed off at me (re-read that) last night for pointing out/asking why she gives our son a shower then lays him down for the night on a piss stained/smelly mattress. I mean, if I could SEE the piss and SMELL the piss, why then couldn't she? Why doesn't she wash the mattress regularly as I had assumed she'd been doing until yesterday? I'm talking it must have been weeks if not months already. So I'M the bad guy because SHE puts our son in a bed of piss nightly with seemingly no regard for his health. Go figure.

Anyway, a few minutes ago, I observed her walking about the house doing her chores while my daughter and I ate breakfast. Of course, my first thought is "where the hell is my son?". So, I go look for him and find him alone in our daughter's room (he gets about via walker very well) playing with a live extension cord! @#$%@!

Gotzdammit I had a connipshyt! First, because I had just had a talk with the wife about safety, second because I had told both the wife and daughter after the last incident that the daughter's room was supposed to be closed when she was not inside, and third because the wife didn't know where the F!!K our son was or what he was doing!

I swear I am at my wits end. If she were a nanny, I would have booted her long ago and she would still be pulling my size 12 out. But WHAT can I do? Serious question here. I have tried talking, educating, etc., etc. but nothing AND I MEAN NOTHING seems to get the "common sense" or "maternal responsibility" gear to work. Safety and cleanliness for our children is all I expect and demand of her. She has no other mandatory responsibilities or duties. Just be a good wife (which she is, otherwise) and take care of us. How can I get her to be proactive and vigilant about safety and sanitation for our kids?

Anyone else facing this challenge? I have to admit that it is REALLY beginning to affect our relationship. ESPECIALLY when she is completely in the wrong, but in her mind makes me out to be the bad guy for pointing out how she is endangering our baby. It is infuriating.

What worries me even more is that I may have to return to the States on business soon for an extended period and I am absolutely terrified about what may happen to my son when I am not here to protect him from his mother(!!!) and her lack of common sense and responsibility...

I feel absolutely terrible.

[KHONDAHM]

Her attitude is like: "Well, yes I clean him and lay him down in piss but how was I supposed to know there is piss on the mattress when the mattress isn't wet?" As if he has to be laying up with rashes and worse in some hospital before it becomes a concern. Or: "Yes I see him playing with a live extension cord, but you stopped him before he hurt himself." As if he should be sprawled on the floor foaming at the mouth before she would think there might be a danger there. In either case, from her warped point of view, I am upset over nothing and 100% wrong for being at all concerned.

I remain astonished, bewildered, and terrified.

[mortiboy]

With ref about the haircutting STAN!
How dare they do that!You pay them fee's for education! They are payed to teach not cut Kin" hair!
Never even had the decency to inform you.....Disgusting! Not only that, she is an adult!
Thats amazing!......(See my reply to LA)

[mortiboy]

Re. Haircut,
My daughter got an haircut from her teacher 4 month ago (Thesaban2) and I bacame so ****** angry that I went to the teacher and asked her to do her ****** job, teaching, and NOT haircut. She became very surprised to my outburst, but I told her that nowhere is there written that the girls should have a certain hairdress, and as long the hair is well trimmed and clean, she should keep her ****** fingers away.
It helped, she has not since then heard anything about too long hair

Same here! My daughter goes to Mary Pheetak catholic school,
.She comes home says "tomorrow sister cut kids hair" I said now way! Didn't send her.
I have told her if a teacher wants cut your hair you tell her NO! Papa said no!
I go ape ---- if they do and be down there! Their job is teaching .....not hairdressing!
I pay fees for this school kin" cheek!
But as Stan says,Us uninvited guests are in a no win situation.
Any physical confrontation could lead to her being banned going there again.
Seems its OK have long hair providing kept swept back, or in plaits
I am afraid Thailand is still in Victorian times.
Have you seen school boys in late teens wearing school shorts?

[mortiboy]

What pisses me off Everyday. Cheap charlies who come into my Aussie Burger Bar and expect to pay 7/11 prices for alcohol, bring their own spirtits and food, yet want to use all the conveniences.......not welcome at all, pisses me off Everyday. And I love being a c..t to them.

I'm with Sport on this.He is running a business. Not charity. These cheap char-lies Ive seen there.four blokes got their bottle of cheap Thai whisky, orders couple of cokes and bottle water! stay there hours.How much profits the man gonna earn there.
I have been there I took my whisky.But he knows I am not cheap charlie, and will buy beer occasionally but beer blows me up(no comments on that 747)! so I prefer scotch and coke .
Ok I think no problem bring your own scotch, but be charged corkage!
Actually he has many customers there from what I see!
But there is always MR Tongs! See how much he charges for a coke!