How much to send to Isan GF per month?

[Sugarfree]

Is it really true that a doctor in X khon, small village, near Sakon Nakhon (for example) has about 10.000 bath per month? A educated professional teacher in Udon Thani about 7000 bath, a police man maybe around 5000 bath.

If so why is my GF without a child, living with her mother, complaining about having little money, I sent her 10.000 bath on the 1st of this month, and extra 1200 few days ago, and she complains via sms just now: ,,money litel. i pay for evrything so much."

Is she pulling my leg? Do I have to face the fact that her honey is just my money?

[arjay]

Sugarfree - Yes, on all counts.

A reasonable monthly wage out here would be 6K a month. If she can't manage on 10K, then does she have other commitments like car or loan repayments? If not, she maybe she has demands from the family because they know she has a farang BF, or she's just spending too much.

IMHO 10K should be quite enough, if she doesn't have any other commitments.

[kevh]

Sorry sugarfree she is certainly taking the piss.

The best thing you can do is cut her off before you get into the relasionship deeper.

If she finishes you because you stop sending money then you know you have done the right thing.

The only way to really know if a thai women loves you is not to pay her a salary. If she stays, then it's real.

If you keep paying then you can never know for sure.

This is sound advice

Kev

[farang]

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my GF without a child, living with her mother, complaining about having little money, I sent her 10.000 bath on the 1st of this month, and extra 1200 few days ago, and she complains via sms just now: ,,money litel. i pay for evrything so much."

Is she pulling my leg? Do I have to face the fact that her honey is just my money?

did your GF earn 10.000 /12.000 per month BEFORE you met her?
yes or no?

[Sugarfree]

I sent her sms and told her since the 11200 K i sent for october month is not enough for her (itดs only 20 october now for Christ sake!) I would stop sending her money altogether! I love her and really hope she will bow to these limits. Itดs harsh but I want to teach her that she canดt just pressurize me for sending her more and more money ... where will it end?

[farang]

did your GF earn 10.000 /12.000 per month BEFORE you met her?
yes or no?

[Sugarfree]

She told me that she earned 12000 bath in Bangkok before we met - at another time she told it was 7000 K and then some weeks later it was back to 12000K. I donดt know what to belief. She is not paying any installments for a car, no rent, has no child to provide for. Working now in a salon with little money of course, but with the extra 10.000 + from me punctually evry month I though she would be happy. As she was... to begin with. Yes - now I will certainly find out if this is true love or just money love. This whole issue makes be so drepressed. I had such high hopes for this relationship.

[Stevo]

With respect...
You posted a couple of days ago, regarding the purchase procedure for a Passport, for your Girlfriend.
It sure sounds to me, like you need to know your Girlfriend a whole lot better, (including her financial requirements) before you commit too much too soon.
You posted before, that you have spent 5 weeks together in total...?
If I were you, I would put her passport plan on the same shelf as the "build a house on her land" plan. Take it sloooww
I think maybe your Girlfriend is testing you a little?(a woman thing, not necessarily Thai)... and, will no doubt expect you to impose a limit... if you don't, you can expect trouble (and loss of face to boot).
Cap the limit at what you agreed to support her on.
Ask her what she has bought with the money, I know my own wife delights in showing me how she has wasted more of our purse on yet more clothes/shoes/teddys..
10,000/month is well adequate, from the situation you describe. (as Farang says "did she earn this much before?")... and for doing what? how many hours a week?
Don't be walked on Sugarfree... be firm, and be fair to yourself.

[arjay]

You could ask her what she has spent the 10K baht for this month on. I would guess she would fudge the answer though.

If you really want to test her, you could tell her that next month will be a difficult month for you, and you will only be able to send her 5K baht, and see what she says or does.

If she has no children and lives with her mother, and pays no rent(?) then she should really be able to manage on 5-6K a month.

[beer monkey]

have'nt we done this already with sugarfree ??

http://www.udonmap.com/udonthaniforum/v ... sc&start=0

[Sugarfree]

Your right Beer Monkey. I just wanted one more confirmation before I sent her the sms informing her that since 11.200 wasnดt enough for October (or the 20 days that have passed) I would stop sending her money altogether. I give up, I told her. Drastic step for me beacause I really love this girl but I really have to impose some limits. I hope this sms will bring her back to her senses.

[arjay]

I too wonder how well you know her. I believe you said you met her in a Beauty shop in Pattaya, which to me sounds ominous. Many massage shop and beauty shop girls in places like Pattaya and Patong tend to operate like bar girls, in that they have many boyfriends on the line.

Sorry to sound cynical, but how do you know she isn't back working there now, with 3 other farang boyfriends sending her money as well as you. And with her just milking you for what she can get.

[ady]

finish with her now.
if you do not, it will get much worse, for sure, no questions.

any short term pain with yourself will be rewarded by long term gain for you.

she is certainly not the only fish in the sea and there are many other girls here to see before you make any big commitments.

harsh words you may think now, but will make perfect sense once you have come out the other side with your wallet and mind intact.

good luck.

[Prenders88]

I too wonder how well you know her. I believe you said you met her in a Beauty shop in Pattaya, which to me sounds ominous. Many massage shop and beauty shop girls in places like Pattaya and Patong tend to operate like bar girls, in that they have many boyfriends on the line.

Sorry to sound cynical, but how do you know she isn't back working there now, with 3 other farang boyfriends sending her money as well as you. And with her just milking you for what she can get.

Oh dear Arjay's thinking what I'm thinking.
If you have got it bad, and you're confused, get her checked out and see if she has any other "sponsors". When you talk to her on the phone is the conversation all about money? These girls are expert in the old Pak Waan, and can string the gullible Jasmine fever sufferer along for ages, telling you want you want to hear, and taking you to the cleaners.
Broken hearted and broke.

[beer monkey]

send the sms and see what happens, be brave and grab the bull by the horns sugarfree .

[hxjohn]

its easy to give advice not every falang is the real thing and are intrested in the long term future of there partner
offcourse the girls will hedge there bets but if you commit yourself and agree what she needs to live on and stick to it you have a good base to build on
when you take on the girl you will be directly our indirectly be surpportng
her near familey ie mum and dad /guys will tell you no i dont give to familey but instead of giving say 10000 they give 20000 to there partner
wright our wrong as a falang you must stump up the cash its all about face even without the falang connection thai on thai get into debt to go down the wedding path even if you dont intend to marry at the moment you can bet you are being sized up
good luck keep a open mind
as for not knowing where she is ask for a local number to contact her on pay phone will do

[kevh]

Top advice.

[ting_tong]

5000 baht a month would be fairly decent, if she needs more money, she can go get a job.

@ 5000bt a month, she can stay home, eat somtam ,hot chicken, and khao niao all day and watch TV

[mackayae]

Read the submissions in www.stickmanbangkok.com. There are hundreds of stories just like yours. Also stickman has a service which will check out your gf. No one knows the true story, except your gf, but you could have a professional check it out for you.

[mackayae]

There is also www.siamspy.com.