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by Udon Map » October 4, 2014, 5:39 pm
I'll weigh in with some thoughts.
I assume that by "... genuine Thai girls ..." he means other than those who might be employed at Nutty Park, Day & Night, Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy, etc., rather than verification of their bloodlines for genuine Thainess. These girls are readily, obviously and conspicuously available for whatever; most would love to snag a falang for a long term relationship/marriage. I know of one bar in Nana Plaza which estimates that it loses an average of one girl every other month to marriage to a falang.
While I haven't done this in Nutty Park or Day & Night, when I'm in Bangkok I've always enjoyed going into certain bars where the music's not too loud and the girls are friendly but not pushy. I don't rent them; as that's not for me (though I make no value judgment of those who do, -- I see nothing wrong with it in the context of a typical go-go bar here, absent pimps/drug pushers/etc. which are more common in the west). But I've chatted with a fair number; and there are a few with whom I've chatted occasionally over a period of over eight years, now.
Eliminating those who have been doing it for too long and have become really hardened, and eliminating the drug/alcohol addicts, etc., I find that, for the most part, they are normal, sweet girls who find themselves in bad situations with no other real choices. Most of the ones I know have infants (<2 years old) at home with their mothers. Their former boyfriends/husbands hightailed it out of there as soon she got pregnant or had the baby. It goes without saying that the former husbands/boyfriends contribute nothing financially or in any other way and are completely absent from the scene. The families are poor; the girls are uneducated. Working at McDonald's isn't going to provide sufficient funds to support the family, a responsibility which, in Thai culture, often falls on the oldest daughter.
Do their circumstances and work make them ineligible or inappropriate for "normal" relationships? Well, they can (apart from figuring out an answer to the question, "How did you two meet?" when your friends in the west ask), but not always. That work can become pretty demoralizing pretty quickly; and the girls harden themselves to it in one way or another. I've heard experiential stories from girls of meanness, rudeness and far, far worse from their customers. I think that the girl who can maintain some semblance of self in these circumstances is the exception, but they do exist. And I'm not talking one in a million, either. OTOH, the ones I know, I know as friends/acquaintances. I've never tried to establish or maintain a relationship with any of them.
They threw in a free room if successful pairings occurred 
