stay in hotel or at the family

Post by **picashuu** » March 28, 2007, 11:14 pm

hi im new here but i come next week to udon to see for the first time my chat girlfriend i see her each day on webcam ; normal i can stay at her mumms house but i heard there is no airco should i take an hotel room or will it no problem?for the heat

Post by **beer monkey** » March 28, 2007, 11:31 pm

picashu..
Don't worry about the heat, she will have a few Fans in the house, just leave them on low at night if its to hot for you.
But hold on....

as i read your post again,its your on-line chat friend and you are coming to see her for the first time, so you don't know what to expect accomodation wise when you get to Udon, if thats the case take a Hotel room, and visit the family house during the day, that way you get the best of both,and a little privacy too, good luck with the "chat girl friend" and lets hope she is what you have been expecting of her, things can be very different face to face.

Post by **Ian** » March 28, 2007, 11:57 pm

Good advice from BM. While staying in her house would be a great experiance it might be a step too far for your relationship. My GF says that it is usually only married couples spend the night together under the parents roof or engaged ones at the very least! It depends on how traditional her parents are, but you might feel things are quickly getting out of control if you rush these things.

My advice is to learn about about the thai customs and how to say a few conversation sentences (the more the better). Take them out to a nice Issan restaurant will impress them and your GF.

Post by **ebroguy** » March 29, 2007, 12:01 am

beer monkey wrote:picashu..
Don't worry about the heat, she will have a few Fans in the house, just leave them on low at night if its to hot for you.
But hold on....

as i read your post again,its your on-line chat friend and you are coming to see her for the first time, so you don't know what to expect accomodation wise when you get to Udon, if thats the case take a Hotel room, and visit the family house during the day, that way you get the best of both,and a little privacy too, good luck with the "chat girl friend" and lets hope she is what you have been expecting of her, things can be very different face to face.

That's certainly true b.m ! when I first joined you was an over excited kid on a couch , and then a toilet with a mouth , now look at you , youv'e certainly aged ! God knows what you really look like !

Post by **beer monkey** » March 29, 2007, 12:05 am

stick around ebro my man and you will see more changes soon.

Post by **ebroguy** » March 29, 2007, 12:31 am

I ain't goin nowhere ! I'll keep watching

Take care

Post by **picashuu** » March 29, 2007, 12:47 am

thanks but she said all ready that i can sleep in her room and she will sleep in other room so maybe its better that i book a hotelroom for two in case off

Post by **panick** » March 29, 2007, 1:08 am

I'd book a room for 1.....If shes traditional there is no way that you will be sleeping together and every time you go out you will have to be chaperoned otherwise it looks bad for her and her family as the two of you are not married!
There will be no good night kisses or sexual contact especialy in public, bar maybe holding hands and I suggest to let her take the lead with that one

Good luck and have fun...but remember this is Thailand and the women are very different to western girls

Post by **jetdoc** » March 30, 2007, 11:09 am

I'd still book for two, if she doesn't stay there no problem.

Post by **beer monkey** » March 30, 2007, 4:19 pm

if you are feeling lucky book for 3.

Post by **glenn75** » March 30, 2007, 5:23 pm

hello guys im new here ,i was in udonthani in feb 2007 i met this beautful girl and going to meet her again in may. when i was in udonthani i lived with a family so i recomend if you meet a girl live like them dont be a money spender , it was fun but i onley could stay for one weeek there hehe
i have to learn more about how thai ladys think, so if any one have any tips of how i should bee with her ...
she gave me a nice kiss in front of some people is that a good sign or a bad sign ?
she told me that she wasent kissing infront of people but she did it with me lol

sorry for my bad english

Post by **dill** » March 30, 2007, 6:23 pm

glenn75 wrote:hello guys im new here ,i was in udonthani in feb 2007 i met this beautful girl and going to meet her again in may. when i was in udonthani i lived with a family so i recomend if you meet a girl live like them dont be a money spender , it was fun but i onley could stay for one weeek there hehe
i have to learn more about how thai ladys think, so if any one have any tips of how i should bee with her ...
she gave me a nice kiss in front of some people is that a good sign or a bad sign ?
she told me that she wasent kissing infront of people but she did it with me lol

sorry for my bad english

i agree with you glen
i also spend some night at gf house and it was a great expereince and everyone liked me more for a fallang to stay in one of their homes.
i got told that to maney fallangs dont like to stay in their homes that's why they were seprised to see me stay there for two nights.
in the end i found that i got more respect and smiles from the locals after i stayed in one of their homes than what i did before i stayed.

Post by **Roadman** » March 30, 2007, 6:32 pm

The alarms would be triggering to me if a "nice" thai girl was allowing me to sleep with her within the first week or two of meeting her, or ever kissing her in Isaan public places.

Post by **Roadman** » March 30, 2007, 7:00 pm

Heat aside the other consideration is bed comfort.
The average thai bedding can be as little as a blanket on the hard floor; or you get offered a mattress that is little more than a bit of thin foam over metal and wood.
May be great with the excitement of the newness initally, but after a night of two of discomfort from a bad thai bed combined with excessive heat if you are not used to it, and the excitement quickly wears thin.

Could also say something about thai ettiquette where boyfriend's do not arrive unknown at a parents house, but if you can not take the time to at least read a little about thai traditional (Isaan) culture then so be it. But then only you can decide your expectations.

Panick gave you by far the best advice.

Post by **dill** » March 31, 2007, 4:26 am

Roadman wrote:Heat aside the other consideration is bed comfort.
The average thai bedding can be as little as a blanket on the hard floor; or you get offered a mattress that is little more than a bit of thin foam over metal and wood.
May be great with the excitement of the newness initally, but after a night of two of discomfort from a bad thai bed combined with excessive heat if you are not used to it, and the excitement quickly wears thin.

Could also say something about thai ettiquette where boyfriend's do not arrive unknown at a parents house, but if you can not take the time to at least read a little about thai traditional (Isaan) culture then so be it. But then only you can decide your expectations.

Panick gave you by far the best advice.

everywhere in the world traditions are changing,some stick with them some change are a little.
being with my gf i found you just got to keep a open mind aspecially in these kind of villages

Post by **Aardvark** » March 31, 2007, 2:04 pm

Definately book a Hotel room and visit the family during the day. Showering cold water with a plastic scoop, flushing after a rather uncomfortable squat with a scoop, especialy if your a little older and your knees are on the way out , and sleeping on a grass mat might be fun for about 5 mins but in no time you will want some mod cons. Face it, the family could be quite embarased if you leave after 2 nights with a look of oh my god on your face. However, if you set a precident of going home at night the family will respect you for it. And remember to go shopping first and buy some beef and pork with you along with a few cold beers for the men and soft drink for the ladies and children and you will be as popular as you ever hoped for. Remember, these poeple are poor and a little generosity will go a long long way. Good luck.

Post by **Roy** » March 31, 2007, 2:31 pm

Yep totally agree with Aardvark. It may seem like a fun story to tell the people back home about experiencing the true Thai culture but in reality it's no fun waking up covered in one thousand mosquito bites, showering in water that you feel dirtier after using and tackling the infamous squatter

Ok we are assuming a typical village house, she may well have a palace but it's unlikely.
Aard's food and drink tip is a must do. They will love you forever

I also believe that by staying with them you will be showing their daughter a larger commitment than perhaps you realize and if things don't work out between you this will result in a "Loss of Face" for your girlfriend and her family within the village.
Good luck, hope it all turns out well for you.

Post by **beer monkey** » March 31, 2007, 5:05 pm

so seeing as we have two posters on this thread now this may apply to either...

If its not a place with wall and gates and is open plan where villagers walk through be prepared for the "Village" drunks who will turn up and ask for a bottle or two of lao-khow,nick your ciggies and wander off with your lighter, a little fun at first,but a pain in the arse after a few days.
Good tip with the food, especially a decent size bit of Thai beef.
The basic Thai toilet/shower is a bit of fun if you have never used them before,ice cold water in the evening for showers and ice cold again in the morning,it certainly knocks you into life.
Ohh and take some toilet roll for your own comfort. !

Post by **Roy** » April 1, 2007, 12:23 pm

If its not a place with wall and gates and is open plan where villagers walk through be prepared for the "Village" drunks who will turn up and ask for a bottle or two of lao-khow,nick your ciggies and wander off with your lighter, a little fun at first,but a pain in the arse after a few days.

=D>

I even had some guy ask for my wedding ring!

Post by **BanPhu** » April 14, 2007, 3:51 am

I had great experience staying at my now in-laws in a village 50km from Udon. Agree with most in the posts above, also had mosquito net and fan for comfort! Biggest problem I had was with the door height in the Hong Nam (Toilet) I banged the top of my head 6 times over the week, ended up being a great source of amusement

My first time to the village reminded me of the Waltons TV series. Pleased I stayed there rather than hotel. Also house was in reality one BIG room seperated out with cupboards/wardrobes/dividers to make separate "rooms".

Ants, flies and mosquitos were biggest suprise/problem.