Thai temper tantrums

Post by **dougness** » December 21, 2007, 10:48 am

Recently my wife had one of her classic Thai temper tantrums.Its always a build up of many things,because Thais can't be bothered to show thier real emotions.They must save face.I know that my wife doesn't like me to joke about certain things,like sex massages.But,she hates it when I question her about money matters.I like to ask how much and for what.Is this not fair?But her reply is that she is not stupid and finished university.She like to say we must pay or next year will be diffucult for us.And I reply difficult for me,because Iam the one who is paying.This ignites a volcanic eruption.I listened for what seemed like 15 or 20 minutes of shouting and pouting.She threatened to break up with me,so I said ok,I will pay one of these Matchmakers in Udon to find you a new husband and pay your bills,until you get "one".She then changed her tact,It was darling I cannot forget you,we have real love,not internet love.Which brings me the topic of internet service in Udon.We cancelled are old service and started with another company.It apparently takes them two months to stop billing you after you cancell,because they have so many customers.Another this is tat.My wife also wants me to drive her truck in the city.I will never drive a manual tranny in this city.Thai drivers and the roads are worse than China in my opinion.I would also like my wife to go the gym,but she doesn't want to workout and is getting fat for a Thai.I will quit venting now.

laphanphon · Post by **laphanphon** » December 21, 2007, 10:56 am

and how does that make you feel? why didn't you have a close relationship with your parents, and don't feel it was your fault. release these feeling of guilt and shame. that's better, here's a tissue. ok, our time is up, that will cost you the usually fee..................................one dark beer lao at nong's, at your leasure.

we are here for you.

Post by **dougness** » December 21, 2007, 11:06 am

I feel better already Dr.Laphanphon.

Post by **Maligator** » December 21, 2007, 11:49 am

Recently my wife had one of her classic Thai temper tantrums.Its always a build up of many things,because Thais can't be bothered to show thier real emotions.They must save face.I know that my wife doesn't like me to joke about certain things,like sex massages.But,she hates it when I question her about money matters.I like to ask how much and for what.Is this not fair?But her reply is that she is not stupid and finished university.She like to say we must pay or next year will be diffucult for us.And I reply difficult for me,because Iam the one who is paying.This ignites a volcanic eruption.I listened for what seemed like 15 or 20 minutes of shouting and pouting.She threatened to break up with me,so I said ok,I will pay one of these Matchmakers in Udon to find you a new husband and pay your bills,until you get "one".She then changed her tact,It was darling I cannot forget you,we have real love,not internet love.Which brings me the topic of internet service in Udon.
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My wife also wants me to drive her truck in the city.I will never drive a manual tranny in this city.Thai drivers and the roads are worse than China in my opinion.I would also like my wife to go the gym,but she doesn't want to workout and is getting fat for a Thai.I will quit venting now.

I think ya need a big hug.

That will be two dark beer Lao
Consultation fees

Post by **jackspratt** » December 21, 2007, 12:08 pm

Why don't you buy 2 copies of "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars" - 1 English, for your goodself, and the other in Thai for the tirak.

Wrap hers very nicely (which is therapeutic in itself), and slip it under the pillow Chrissy eve (treating yourself at the same time to a dark Beer Lao for playing Father Christmas).

On the 25th you can both curl up in your respective Reclina Rockers, and start reading. When either of you comes to a pertinent bit, you can stop to discuss, really letting your inner feelings out.

By new years you will be engulfed by marital bliss, and I guarantee Mrs Ness will never have another angry moment.

And a big hug from me too

Post by **BKKSTAN** » December 21, 2007, 12:14 pm

If it could be ''so simple'' and ''so easy''!The cultural divide is immense!

I must say though,your statements to her must really convince her of your ''love'' for her and how much you ''need'' her!She will surely see the error of her ways and feel very ''secure'' in her future!

Keep buying those Beer Laos

Post by **dougness** » December 21, 2007, 12:24 pm

I think Thai women equate money spent on them and thier family as love.

Post by **arjay** » December 21, 2007, 2:00 pm

Maligator wrote:Recently my wife had one of her classic Thai temper tantrums.Its always a build up of many things,because Thais can't be bothered to show thier real emotions.They must save face.I know that my wife doesn't like me to joke about certain things,like sex massages.But,she hates it when I question her about money matters.I like to ask how much and for what.Is this not fair?But her reply is that she is not stupid and finished university.She like to say we must pay or next year will be diffucult for us.And I reply difficult for me,because Iam the one who is paying.This ignites a volcanic eruption.I listened for what seemed like 15 or 20 minutes of shouting and pouting.She threatened to break up with me,so I said ok,I will pay one of these Matchmakers in Udon to find you a new husband and pay your bills,until you get "one".She then changed her tact,It was darling I cannot forget you,we have real love,not internet love.Which brings me the topic of internet service in Udon

If I am asked for money for something special or unusual, I sometimes say, well if I spend money on this, I won't have money for that (something else) later. Let her know that maybe I won't be able to afford something particular she wants at a later date. I think economists call it "Opportunity Costs".

Though I have tried that in the past, - If I give you money for x I probably won't have enough money to renew my retirement visa next year, but that didn't really work, - they can't see or think that far ahead.

Post by **aznyron** » December 21, 2007, 5:57 pm

I can only speak for my self. I love my wife but I will NOT be a door mat. for her or any other women. and I do not like threats of any kind and as for money I give my wife X amount and it has to last to next pay day if not I want to know were it went now I get paid every two weeks and one check a month (SS) the monthly check pays the for the apt. and the truck and credit card bills which is spent on the house (food) and dinning out of course we all are hurting with the USD in the toilet but we manage and they have to understand that. if my wife threathen to leave me over money I would show her the door and tell her never come back we are finished and if it was house I would walk and leave her the house mortgage and if no mortgage I would still leave I don't need that stress in my life. I cried in my beer once to often I don't cry any more for any one. ice water for blood only way to be today with all women

Post by **dougness** » December 21, 2007, 9:27 pm

I thinks its a question of understanding.Thier understanding that we are not made out of money.Depending on what kind of a life your wife had before she met you.If their only experiance of the west is TV screen,then I don't think they have an inkling of what are lives are like.With my wife I think its getting better,because I show her my tax returns and explain how much the government is taking and what my bills are like.Some guys will think this is stupid,because maybe thier wife would ask for more.That is understandable when your wife lives in butfck nowwhere and you send her 5000-10,000 Baht.The bottem line is thier parents are number one and you are a close number two.If she doesn't like her parents you might be equal,lol.I had my can of therapy at Nongs Ribs and met Khun Glen.Seems like a decent fella.Bye for now.

Post by **Maligator** » December 22, 2007, 2:00 am

The bottem line is thier parents are number one and you are a close number two.

I always thought that we rated a number 4 at least.
Behind the family and right next to the dog.

Post by **747man** » December 22, 2007, 10:59 am

Maligator wrote:
The bottem line is thier parents are number one and you are a close number two.
I always thought that we rated a number 4 at least.
Behind the family and right next to the dog.

Na ! You FORGOT the Buffalo !!!

Post by **panick** » December 22, 2007, 5:46 pm

And the Chickens

Post by **dougness** » December 22, 2007, 7:32 pm

I have neutralised my wife with space.The less we see each other the better we treat each other when we see each other.I guess that old saying,''familiarity breeds contempt'',is true.

Post by **Darryl** » December 22, 2007, 10:15 pm

Read "Thailand Fever"there is some very good information about cultural differences , on Thai and falang relationships ,and the way each of you think.Its written in Thai and English on oppisite pages.It will tell you both things you didnt consider ,or even know about.

Post by **Laan Yaa Mo** » December 22, 2007, 11:01 pm

Well, 'Thailand Fever'is okay just as 'Private Dancer', 'My Name Lon, you like me"and the detective novels by John Burdett (sp) are okay. But they do not tell you everything because they cannot. All they do is give you tips on potential warning signs in some farang-Thai/Lao relationships. Furthermore, they do not tell you about the farangs that promise the world and their love to a Thai-Lao lady and advise them to give up their jobs and so on to meet them in Bangkok. In some cases, the farang does not show up and the lady is sitting alone at the airport, and the hotel for days on end until she realises that she was had.

Your own experience is going to be different from anything you cull from a book.

Post by **Darryl** » December 22, 2007, 11:25 pm

Just a suggestion ,if it helps a little bit,thats good.Doesnt tell you about about bad scamming Thai ladies also. chok dee whatever.

Post by **dougness** » December 23, 2007, 11:09 am

I read Thailand Fever one year ago when I met my wife,but it doesn't tell you everything and wife only skimmed through it.And felt most of it didn't apply to her.Things are better now,thanks to all for thier suggestions and comments.

Post by **wilson_smith** » December 23, 2007, 11:37 am

jackspratt wrote:Why don't you buy 2 copies of "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars" - 1 English, for your goodself, and the other in Thai for the tirak.

Wrap hers very nicely (which is therapeutic in itself), and slip it under the pillow Chrissy eve (treating yourself at the same time to a dark Beer Lao for playing Father Christmas).

On the 25th you can both curl up in your respective Reclina Rockers, and start reading. When either of you comes to a pertinent bit, you can stop to discuss, really letting your inner feelings out.

By new years you will be engulfed by marital bliss, and I guarantee Mrs Ness will never have another angry moment.

And a big hug from me too

3 board members in this thread typed some long sentences and made what they have to say hard to read. If you typed like the gentleman I quoted, its easy to read.

Here is a hint, hit the enter key 2 times after the end of the sentence.

At my house, I throw the tantrums if I want, but only for worthy causes..........I am still the boss

Post by **jackspratt** » December 23, 2007, 12:20 pm

wilson_smith wrote:
jackspratt wrote:Why don't you buy 2 copies of "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars" - 1 English, for your goodself, and the other in Thai for the tirak.

Wrap hers very nicely (which is therapeutic in itself), and slip it under the pillow Chrissy eve (treating yourself at the same time to a dark Beer Lao for playing Father Christmas).

On the 25th you can both curl up in your respective Reclina Rockers, and start reading. When either of you comes to a pertinent bit, you can stop to discuss, really letting your inner feelings out.

By new years you will be engulfed by marital bliss, and I guarantee Mrs Ness will never have another angry moment.

And a big hug from me too

3 board members in this thread typed some long sentences and made what they have to say hard to read. If you typed like the gentleman I quoted, its easy to read.

I am dumbstruck - a gentleman no less $\:D/$

My Christmas in now complete